Stage 4 and surrogacy

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Stage 4 and surrogacy

Postby saltygirl » Fri Mar 29, 2024 9:42 am

I have to admit that I am in shock. And don't know what to say. There is a woman with stage 4 breast cancer on chemo treatment currently living near me. The couple has 2 young children. Boy and a girl. The girl is around 3 years old. Boy probably 8. The couple just announced that they are having a new baby via surrogacy being born in 6 weeks. As far as I know stage 4 breast cancer is not curable like some cases of colorectal cancer. My mom had breast cancer 25 years ago. I am well informed. What were they thinking. Can't they focus on raising their 2 children? Maybe I see it in a wrong way.

When I was diagnosed stage 4 I had 2 kids in high school. I am thankful every day that they are now a college senior and a freshman being independent. I pushed them to mature faster. My son traveled solo around the World lately. My girl is applying to med schools now. But that was my biggest worry to bring them to independence.
Stage 4, distant lymph nodes May 2020, braf/kras mutations
11 folfoxiri
Intense radiation 1 week on distant lymph nodes
Surgery, hysterectomy, colon resection, distant lymph nodes resection
Complete pathological response to chemo.
NED 2021
NED 2022
NED 2023

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Re: Stage 4 and surrogacy

Postby roadrunner » Fri Mar 29, 2024 1:11 pm

Perhaps she and her she and her partner understand the risks and likely scenarios, and have prepared for them (financially and personally).
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saltygirl
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Re: Stage 4 and surrogacy

Postby saltygirl » Fri Mar 29, 2024 1:55 pm

Maybe. Her husband is around 65. She is early 40s. She is active on Christian social media. Interestingly received mostly exciting response. So yes, maybe I just can't relate.
Stage 4, distant lymph nodes May 2020, braf/kras mutations
11 folfoxiri
Intense radiation 1 week on distant lymph nodes
Surgery, hysterectomy, colon resection, distant lymph nodes resection
Complete pathological response to chemo.
NED 2021
NED 2022
NED 2023


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