Your situation is quite similar to my husband's - he also had ULAR with tumor 4cm from AV, and a lot of post-surgery complications (acute kidney failure, guts "seizing up") which kept him in the hospital for almost 3 weeks! But eventually it all settled down and his ileostomy has been working well, he's been able to eat pretty much anything (after a period of adjustment of course), travel, etc. We learned this morning that there's no leak at the anastomosis site, so he will undergo reversal on September 5th.
Hang in there!
Wife of Dx 04/18 (51 yo). MSS, KRAS G12A, no primary
Tumors: L4 vertebrae 04/18; left adrenal gland & small lung nodules 03/19;
rectum 02/22 (pT3 pN0 stage 2A); L3 vertebrae 09/22
Surgeries: intestinal resection 05/18 (no cancer - Crohn's); adrenalectomy 02/20;
L3-L4-L5 fusion and corpectomy 05/20; LAR 04/22; reversal 09/22;
L2-L3-L4-L5 fusion and corpectomy 09/22
Treatments: EBRT 04/18; SBRT 02/19; Failed adjuvant Xelox ; Folfiri + Avastin 03/19 - 01/20;
adjuvant chemoradiation (Xeloda) 06/22