My Wife Passed Away Today

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My Wife Passed Away Today

Postby ebv60 » Fri Jul 28, 2017 10:52 pm

After 5 years of battling cancer she can rest in peace ..... she was all set to have a catheter place in the lung this morning, and then doing hospice at home. left her last night good sprints, fully alert setting up in bed carrying on a normal conversation , her breathing was labored she was on O2 .told the nurses no pain. At 3AM this morning hospital called said we should come up . got there she was unresponsive to our presents .They put an O2 mask on her ,after about an hour or so she was able to squeeze are hands when ask her questions but lasted a short time ,,then conditions deteriorate until she passed.
Everyone that had seen the previous afternoon/evening, clergy, Doctor, hospice and family were floored at how her condition had change so rapidly
to DW 6/12 stage 4
6/12 colon resection, liver Mets
Folfox & Folfiri till 4/13
liver resection Mayo 5/13 Clear margins
mop up chemo
NED till 9/14
cancer complete hysterectomy,
CEA climbing 12/14
1/15 scans, tumors return
1/15 Mayo for surgery; need shrinkage before surgery
Folfiri w Erbitux
break over Christmas, rash from Erbitux
1/16 scan tumors growing, liver, lungs, lymph nodes involvement
Folfiri w Avastin 1/16
Stivarga 6/16
lonsurf 1/17
Scan 6/17 tumors growing.
At peace 7/17

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Re: My Wife Passed Away Today

Postby kandj » Fri Jul 28, 2017 11:00 pm

I am so sorry for your loss. I hope you were comforted by being able to be with her and say good bye. :cry:
wife to DH, dx 8/15 stage IV @36
Told unresectable liver Mets
Primary resection and HAI pump placed Dec 2015 at MSKCC, FUDR started Dec 2015
Liver resection 5/19/2016 15-20 mets removed (surgeon lost count, but it hopeful he got it all!)
Recurrence 7/2017 4 Liver mets and one possible lung met
Radiation on liver Mets 12/17
Lung met 10/18
46 rounds of chemo 8/15-5/18
VATS on lung met 11/18 started xeloda

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Re: My Wife Passed Away Today

Postby LoraCF » Fri Jul 28, 2017 11:18 pm

I'm so sorry to hear this. At least she knew you were there with her.

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Re: My Wife Passed Away Today

Postby mariane » Fri Jul 28, 2017 11:21 pm

I am very sorry.
mom of now 9 years old twins, dx @ 40 in 6/2015 with upper rectal cancer, 10+ liver mets, CEA 140
chemo: 8/2015 - 10/2016 - 4xFOLFIRINOX, 2xFOLFOX, 8xFOLFIRI, 10x5FU, HAI pump -12xFUDR
4 surgeries, complete pathological response
CEA<2 since 10/2015
NED since May 2016

I praise God for every day with my family!

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Re: My Wife Passed Away Today

Postby peanut_8 » Sat Jul 29, 2017 12:09 am

very sorry for your loss
Terri aka peanut
diagnosed Jan 14, RC stage 2a, age 56
permanent colostomy
April 14, 28 chemo/rad with Xeloda
June 14 adjuvant Xeloda 6 rounds
currently NED

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Re: My Wife Passed Away Today

Postby ANDRETEXAS » Sat Jul 29, 2017 1:12 am

I am sorry to hear about your wife. Prayers to you and your family from Texas. Andre
2/10 - Colon resect
2/13 - DX- Stg IIIb
3/7 - Port placed
3/11 - FOLFOX (12 rds w/full oxi)
8/14 - Chemo finish
8/25 - CT- Inc
9/5 - clean PET
12/10- clean CT
3/2 - Clean colonoscopy & port removed
3/4- clean CT
9/21- clean CT
3/23- clean CT
2/22- clean CT
3/21 - clean CT
4/11 - clean colonoscopy


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Re: My Wife Passed Away Today

Postby ams5796 » Sat Jul 29, 2017 6:08 am

So very sorry for your loss. My best to you and your loved ones.

Stage 3C (or 4?) Rectal Cancer 01/07
2/10 lung mets
3/11 VATS
6/11 VATS
7/13 lung met
2/14 SBRT
NED 8/14
5/17 scan and MRI found treated spine met

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Re: My Wife Passed Away Today

Postby mpbser » Sat Jul 29, 2017 6:13 am

my condolences :cry:
Wife 4/17 Dx age 45
5/17 - Lap left hemi
5 x 4 x 1 cm
low grade
T3 N2b M1a
Stage IV A
lymph nodes: 9 of 54
8/17 Sub-total colectomy
2nd tumor 5.5 cm T1 N0
CEA: 1.4, 2.1, 1.5, 1.9, 1.9, 2.1, 2.1, 2.4, 1.7, 2.0
Lynch no; KRAS wild
Immunohistochemsistry: Normal MLH1, MSH2, MSH6, and PMS2
Tumor DNA variants: MTOR, APC, TP53
Liver left hepatectomy seg 4 1/31/18
5/18 NED

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Re: My Wife Passed Away Today

Postby SurvivorsSpouse » Sat Jul 29, 2017 6:21 am

So sorry for your loss.

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Re: My Wife Passed Away Today

Postby WarriorSpouse » Sat Jul 29, 2017 7:55 am

I am sorry to hear of your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Spouse of wife 47 years old
10/2014, Stage IV Metastatic CC
Lymph node involvement 12/15, w/ positive PET on para-aortic lymph nodes.
5 cm sigmoid tumor resection as well as positive Virchow lymph node.
KRAS mut, Highly Differentiated, Lynch Negative
Folfox and Avastin 1 YR (Oxi for 5 months) NED 05/2015
Zeloda and Avastin since 01/2016
Chemo break 03/2017, back on Zeloda and Avastin 04/2017.

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Re: My Wife Passed Away Today

Postby Bev G » Sat Jul 29, 2017 9:45 am

I'm so sorry for the passing of your wife. It's a comfort, I hope, that you were able to be with her. What a hard time you, your wife and fmaily have had. Rest now, whenever you can.
58 yo Type1 DM 48 years
12/09 Stage IV 2/22 nodes + liver met, colon resec
3 tx FOLFIRI, liver resec 4/10
9/10 6 mos off chemo, Neg PET&CTC CEA nl
2/11 finished total 10 rounds chemo

9/13 ^17th clean PET/CT NED for now

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Re: My Wife Passed Away Today

Postby Maia » Sat Jul 29, 2017 1:07 pm

I'm so sorry for your loss. It sounds like she was feeling peaceful, and sure surrounded by your love and care, which is so, so good.
Hope you rest and are accompanied soon by the best memories of your life together.

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Re: My Wife Passed Away Today

Postby bitchslapped » Sat Jul 29, 2017 2:48 pm

My condolences to you & your family for the loss of your DW. I hope that you feel some blessings, comfort knowing the clergy was there the day before, that she knew you were there @ the time of her passing.
DSS,35YO,unresect mCRC DX 7/'14,lvr,LN,peri,rib
FOLFOX+Avstn 4 Rnds d/c 10/'14
Stent 9/'14
FOLFIRI+Avstn 10/'14
Gone From My Sight 2/20/15
Me:garden variety polyps + precancerous polyp, diverticulitis
Carergver x2 DH,DM dbl occupancy,'03-'10
DH dx 47YO mCRC,'04-'07 fried x HAI
DM dx CC 85YO,CC,CHF,stroke,dementia,aphasia

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Re: My Wife Passed Away Today

Postby jortego128 » Sat Jul 29, 2017 9:05 pm

I'm so very sorry. Its only been a few days it seems since you let us know how she was doing, I'm sure her passing so quickly was not expected. Its hard to find any positive in times like this but I'm glad to hear she was without pain. May God bless and have mercy on her soul and you and your family...
DM 57 yrs old dx 6/8/15 T:4a N:1b M:1
KRAS G12D and TP53 C242fs mutations
Poorly Differentiated, Prominent Signet Ring Component(~50%)
Microsatellite Stable, 3 of (13)lymph nodes positive
15 Liver mets, largest 3.2 cm
Prim. Resection, Right Hemicolectomy 6/21/15
Start Chemo 7/20/15
2 rounds FOLFOX, 1 round FOLFOX +Avastin
CT 8/28/15, met growth, largest 4.5cm
4 rounds FOLFOX+Avastin
CT 11/06/15 mets stable, lungs clear
Begin FOLFIRI+Avastin 11/17/15, Stop chemo 1/26/16
Entered Paradise 3/11/2016

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Re: My Wife Passed Away Today

Postby mypinkheaven » Sat Jul 29, 2017 9:20 pm

I'm glad you were able to be with her.
MSS, KRAS Wild NRAS Mutated
9/2012 CRC IIB Lft Colectomy 0 lymph nodes 0 Chemo
10/2013 CT clear
11/15 CEA 2.7 to 4.6
11/15 Spread to uterus. Hysterectomy
2/16 Pelvic radiation 25, brachytherapy 3
4/16 - 6/16 Xeloda
6/16 CT Several lung nodules 5 mm
8/16 CT Nodules still present. Most stable. Some growth
11/16 Transfer to UCSD Moores
12/16 Folfox + Avastin failed
2/17 Folfiri + Erbitux
8/17 5FU+Erbitux No 5FU bolus
7/18 Spread to vagina
6/18 Folfiri + Avastin + Trametinib
6/18 CEA dropping

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