Hi all
I am sure that something like this has been posted before, but I could not find something that answered my specific question. My fiance was diagnosed with stage 3 rectal cancerin December. I am 29 and he is 32.
He has had three opinions from surgeons at major medical centers around the country. All of the surgeons think the cancer has invaded the sphincter so much that he will need a permament colostomy. He is very upset and the most I have been able to do is convice him to see a therapist. But at this point he wants to refuse treatment rather than live with a colostomy.
While I am devastated about this news, I am prepared to move forward and share a life with him regardless of what happens.
My questions are the following:
1. For those of you who have faced the best news is there anything that loved ones can do to help a person going through this.
2. Is there anything he can do to understand that a colostomy is not the end of the world.
3. Aside from Sloan Kettering and Mayo would any of you offer and other good rectal surgeons he could possibly talk to?
wow that was a long pos
Many thanks,
cuca