Thanks again for the tips, I do relay everything to him and I know it helps some.
My husband refuses to take the internet route - so I do it for him, and relay information, usually from scientific articles, or stories from this forum, and he is appreciative. I try to spread them or wait until something is really appropriate (for example, an article praising SBRT at the time we realized that radiation at our local hospital did not do the job), so that his cancer isn't a daily topic of conversation and we can go days, even weeks now, without mentioning it, which is wonderful! I hope you get there - like many have said, it IS possible to recover from the nastiness of treatments and side effects.