Ok, I am terrible. I admit it. But here's my rationalization: I am so tired of those few, but all to real individuals who have never had cancer, have never been a caregiver, and yet somehow know everything there is to know about cancer. Most people are kind and supportive, but to those others, I just have some things I really want to say. I don't. I just think them, but I really, really want to.
Person: I’m sorry to hear your husband has colon cancer. My brother-in-law died from that.
Person: Cancer is a multi-billion-dollar conspiracy. Big Pharma knows the cure, they are just suppressing it to make money.
Me: You are objectively wrong. Go home and watch YouTube videos of the “fake” moon landing.
Person: You know [Insert something here like carrots, green tea, cinnamon, broccoli, pomegranate juice, etc.] cures cancer.
Me: No, it doesn’t. Carrots do not cure cancer. Carrots have never cured cancer. Since the dawn of the universe itself, at absolutely no point in time have carrots ever cured cancer. EVER!
Person: But there’s a book by [some bonehead] about how she cured cancer by juicing carrots.
Me: Carrots do not cure cancer. Refer to previous tirade.
Person: But a friend of mind said that their friend cured their cancer with carrots.
Me: Your friend is either a liar or badly deluded. You should not associate with people like that.
Person: In my opinion, chemotherapy is worse than the disease.
Me: Your opinion is wrong and you should feel bad for having it.
Person: Chemotherapy is poison. Your husband should stop taking it immediately and focus on Eastern Medicine and alternative therapies.
Me: No. We will not be stopping chemo. And as for you suggesting that we do, I’m not judging, but you are a terrible person.
I can't promise that I will never say any of these things, but I will try very hard not to.
Wife to DH with CRC
Stage IV Diagnosis 1/27/17, Mets to Liver, Omentum, Peri
KRAS Mutation, G12, MSS
Nov. scan - disease progression
1/24/18 15-hour HIPEC surgery.
June 2018 It's back, starting Stivarga
Aug. 2018 stopping Stivarga
Sep. 2018 clinical trial of Keytruda and ibrutanib
Dec. 2018 disease progression, stopped trial
Jan. 2019 small bowel obstruction and surgery
Mar. 2019 clinical trial TAK-164
May 2019 deteriorating rapidly
June 12, 2019 At Peace