My fiancé, Tim, was diagnosed August 17, 2016 with colon cancer after a colonoscopy. Had surgery on September 7, 2016. Went back 2 weeks later and was told it was Stage 3 B.
He is 50 years old and has always been healthy. All of this is being done at the V.A. hospital in Tampa. The oncologist we met with yesterday told us about the chemo and the process. We thought it would be an IV infusion every other week. Found out they do chemo on Tuesday. He'll have a port that they will put additional medication into and then have to go back on Thursday to have it removed. This will be done every other week. He told us about the side effects. We knew about the common ones but the hand pain and tingling is scary. The doctor also told him no working for 6 months.
Tim said forget it. He's not doing it. Doctor said 5 year survival rate without chemo is 60-70%. With chemo, 79%. Is it worth it? I would think those numbers are skewed. Don't they use a lot of 70-80 year olds? Is there a study with people just 35-55? His opinion is that since he had an aunt die from brain cancer after doing all the treatments, he wants to enjoy life. I believe after thinking about it overnight, he has changed his mind. I want him with me for a long time.
Can anyone advise on these medications? They are the names the doctor gave us. Adrucil and Eloxatin.
Thank you in advance for all your information. Andrea
There are a few invisible issues that are in the works for both of you. You and Tim are not married and while you want him with you for a long time,
and he has always been a robust bloke, he could be concerned about you becoming his caregiver, not his wife. He could be concerned that the
effects of chemo may alter (irrevocably) the way in which he can be a man to you, and be your
A very good friend of mine, had a husband who received a diagnosis of colon cancer and it deeply impacted on his sense of masculinity and
how he saw himself as a man, husband, lover and felt about the mutilations to his body.
An issue which most people think is mostly
a woman's concern.
The aunt who died from brain cancer (which are usually incurable) bargained for more time. And had her tumour perhaps been a metastasis
from a breast cancer.......the odds were against the aunt. They are more favourable - heaps more favourable
- for your Tim.