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Sharon Brent
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To Sell or Donate a Question? Views Please

Postby Sharon Brent » Wed May 13, 2015 2:39 pm

Ok so this is not your average question asked here but I need some frank and candid answers

My Hair is Very Long, past by Bum, and I want to Cut about 16 inches or 41cms off, maybe a bit more

I'm undecided whether to sell the hair I could get about £150 and pay a bill or donate it to make a wig for a Cancer Patient.

I am torn as my heart says Donate and do it for the memory of your Husband and my Brain says, sell it and pay off a bill to make things easier for you and the kids.

What should I do ? HELP
DH, 47yo, Dx Stg IV, mCRC, lvr, lng 1/14, Tx Capeciabine 9 rnds
Children 5 & 1
DH 48th Birthday 6 November in Hospital
Home palliative care on 12 November 2014
Called back to Jesus 4pm 15 November 2014
Life Celebration in Nigeria 8 January 2015

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Postby jhocno197 » Wed May 13, 2015 3:11 pm

Hmmmm...that is tough!! Maybe you could sell it this time for you & the kids, then grow it out again & donate?
DH - dx Dec 2014, stage IV with bladder & peritoneal involvement - non-resectable
Colostomy
FOLFOX failed
FOLFIRI failed
Tumor actually distending pelvic skin
Not a candidate for last-ditch pelvic exenteration
Stivarga finally begun 2/19/16
Tumor growing/fungating
Lonsurf started 11/18/16
Died 3/10/17

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rwightman
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Postby rwightman » Wed May 13, 2015 3:20 pm

If the money would help, sell it. Consider it a donation to yourself and your family!
10/9/14 DX Age 50 - MSS
10/23/14 - Colon Resection - Stage II - 0/15 lympth nodes
12/30/14 - Stage IV - 1 liver met 2cc - Liver Resection - No lymph nodes and margins clear
3/10/15 - peri mets
3/15 - Folfox with Avastin - 7 tx
7/15 - HIPEC - 2 peri mets
10/14 - resection of abdominal met
11/12 - 5FU

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Postby mom_2_3 » Wed May 13, 2015 3:21 pm

Sharon,

Perhaps you could take the money from the hair and from that amount make a donation in your dear husband's name and use the remainder towards a bill. You both honor his memory and take care of the children.

Best wishes,
Amy
CC discovered during c-section (11/4/08)
Diagnosed Stage IV 11/10/08 -- Happy 39th Birthday! 5 bilobar liver mets
02/09: Colectomy, liver resection, HAI pump implanted, 7 of 42 nodes
7 months of FUDR and 5FU ended 11/2/09
10 years NED.

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Postby JudeD59 » Wed May 13, 2015 3:41 pm

I like Amy's idea best. Sell the hair, use a small part of the money as a donation, and then use the rest to pay off a bill and give yourself a bit of peace of mind.

Judy
56 yrs old, wife, mother to 4 daughters
RC Stage II T3N0M0 DX April 2, 2015
6 cm. mid-rectum-CEA 121
Xeloda and radiation finished 06/15/15- CEA 242
CEA right before surgery 81
LAR performed 8/12/15 Temporary ileostomy
CEA 10-21-15 1.6
PET scan 11-4-15 All clear
Port installed 11/11/15
Folfox started 11/18/15
Folfox stopped due to bad reaction
Reversal 2/17/16
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Postby Sandy1962 » Wed May 13, 2015 3:42 pm

I say sell it, donation comes second and family comes first.
Sandy
4/11/2012-Colonoscopy-Adenocarcinoma
4/12/2012 CT Scan-1 Liver Met-Stage IV
4/17/2012 Port In -5FU & 5 Weeks Radiation
6/17/2012 Surgery - Removed Rectal,Liver Tumor, & Gallbladder
7/17/2012 CEA <0.5
12/16/2013 PET Clear CEA <0.5

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Postby Carolinabluetec » Wed May 13, 2015 3:50 pm

Family comes first. Make a donation when you are able.
03/14 DX Adenocarcinoma Sigmoid Polyp
05/14 Da Vinci Sigmoid Colectomy
06/14 T3N0Mx, staged IIa
07/14 Xeloda 3000 mg/day 14 on/7 off 8 rounds
12/14 Finished Chemo
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Postby PainInTheAss » Wed May 13, 2015 6:47 pm

I agree on donating to yourself. But use the money to do something fun for you and your kids. Create a memory in their dad's honor. Bills will always be there, but memories last a lifetime. You've been through enough to not feel burdened to help others. Sometimes you have to learn to be selfish and take care of you. It's okay when you need that.
47yo single mom of 4 (24, 21, 18, 16) at Dx
6/13 - RC T4b IIIc 5LNs on PET CEA 5.4
8/13 - Finish chemorad
10/13 - APR/hyst+ovaries/perm colostomy 2/12 nodes+
6/14 - Finish Xelox 6 rds
1/15 - CT clear CEA 0.2
10/15 - CT/MRI clear CEA 0.7
4/16 - CT clear
10/16 - CT/MRI clear CEA 0.6
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Postby Bat-Mom » Wed May 13, 2015 8:36 pm

My vote is with the others, sell it! It is nice to think of others but please take care of your family first.
54 y/o
10-2013 colonoscopy
11-2013 colon resect
12-2013 stage 3b results are in 4 of 11 LN
12-2013 - 5-2014 folfox
9-2014 cea 1.7 12-2014 CT clear cea 1.7 3-2015 cea 1.6
6-2015 new doc new lab. Cea now 3.9???

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Postby JJ2212 » Wed May 13, 2015 8:52 pm

Thinking of your family first is not selfish. You've been through enough already and if the money helps, then sell it.

My 2 cents.

Janie
Rectal cancer dx 04/13 @ 42, MSS, KRAS positive
T3N2M1 (1 lung met)
5 weeks xeloda+radiation finished 07/13
APR 9/13 (permanent colostomy), 27/31 nodes positive :-(
12 rounds of FOLFOX 04/14
Lung met growth 11/14
26 cycles Regorafenib (Stivarga) from 11/15 to 01/17
New lung met and chest/neck lymph nodes 01/17
1 cycle Folfiri

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Postby peanut_8 » Wed May 13, 2015 11:19 pm

Sharon, I think you and your girls should spend the money on something to honor your DH.
best wishes, peanut
female, diagnosed Jan 14, RC stage 2a, age 56
MSS
April 14, 28 chemo/rad with Xeloda
June 14 adjuvant Xeloda 6 rounds
currently NED

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Postby Nik Colon » Thu May 14, 2015 12:58 am

If you need the money at this time, I would get the money (we all understand how hard times can get), if you can go without the money, donate. Dont feel guilty if you cant donate at this time. Best wishes

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Postby Bev G » Thu May 14, 2015 8:53 am

I think you're wonderful for even asking this question. Family first, dear.

Thinking of you,

Bev
58 yo Type1 DM 48 years
12/09 Stage IV 2/22 nodes + liver met, colon resec
3 tx FOLFIRI, liver resec 4/10
9/10 6 mos off chemo, Neg PET&CTC CEA nl
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Postby Frenchie's Wife » Thu May 14, 2015 9:21 am

I agree with most posters on here. Sell the hair and spend it on something you need.
Nothing says you have to donate immediately after you sell your hair.
Where is that writen anywhere ??
You and the girls need to come first.
Speaking of the girls, I got carried away and sent something cute and cuddly along
with the souvenirs. I can't help myself, I love kids. I think they will be surprised
and pleased when the postman shows up.
Caregiver to DH 59 yr, male, Stage IV at Dx
Dx Sept 2009
Liver,bladder mets, 5 surgeries
Lots of chemo
Inoperable lung mets nov 2013
Stopped all treatments in February 2014 due to QOL issues
I am in God's hands now !!
Feb 2015 - too many new mets to count !
At peace July 9, 2017

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Postby Frenchie's Wife » Thu May 14, 2015 9:21 am

Ops
Caregiver to DH 59 yr, male, Stage IV at Dx
Dx Sept 2009
Liver,bladder mets, 5 surgeries
Lots of chemo
Inoperable lung mets nov 2013
Stopped all treatments in February 2014 due to QOL issues
I am in God's hands now !!
Feb 2015 - too many new mets to count !
At peace July 9, 2017


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