My wonderful sweet husband is finally at peace

[SFLwife]

Through much tears I wish to thank all of you for your support and advice since my loving and sweet husband started his journey a year ago. Yesterday he did pass away and is finally at peace and has no more pain. He declined quickly after his last chemo on 9/13 and never really recovered. We saw a quick progression on pain, weakness and confusion the last few days so his Onc did recommend hospice on Monday when I called him. They came in Monday night and started him on oxygen, and drops of Oxy and Ativan. He seemed to finally relax, breathe easier than he had in weeks and slept for the first time in days It was great to see him sleep, but after 15 hours, around 11am.Yesterday I asked if we drew back on the Ativan would he wake up so we could speak with him. They said they had not given him Ativan since 2am. We just spoke to him as he slept. At around 3 the nurse said his respiration was changing and he was most likely passing. My two sons and I spent that last almost hour just laying on the bed with him and giving him so much love, kisses and soft hugs until he peacefully passed. It was such a special time we can carry in our hearts forever. Much better that if he had passed in pain and anxiety as we saw increasing this weekend. One thing i am very glad about that i think made a world if difference was insisting to hospice we keep him here at home and in our own bed. They did want to move him to a facility and I knew his wishes were to never spend another night in a hospital. That made a very big difference and we will never regret it.
As I was messaging to Sharon (mojo) a little bit ago, you guys have been such an unbelievable support this year. I could not have gone through this year without you. Flyer things all settle down, I will be back to share with others as it helped so much for surviving loved ones like Sharon continue to give support and advice to those going through each new phase. I love you guys and my prayers are with you all continuously

[cashmere]

I am so sorry for your loss, your posting was so lovely. Be kind to your self, Pearl

[michelle c]

I am so sorry for your loss. My heartfelt sympathy to you and your boys at this difficult time.

Love and hugs,

Michelle xox

[gep]

I am thinking of you and your family. I'm glad that he's at peace.
Gloria

[skypup]

My sympathies to you and your whole family. Hate that cancer took him, love that you all loved him so well. I'm so glad that hospice came in and helped. Peace be with you.

[Felicia]

I'm so sorry. Sounds like his passing was just the way he wanted it. What a special memory. May you feel lifted up in the days, months, and years that come. Know that I am thinking and praying for you.

Felicia

[Laurettas]

I am so sorry for your deep loss but I know that the fact that he is suffering no more is great solace. I am wishing you much peace in the days and weeks ahead.

[HardKnox]

So sorry to hear. Much, much too young.

So many of us here who have loved, and lost.

[DBF]

I am so sorry. Wishing you and your family much peace.

[Guinevere]

I'm so sorry for your and your children's loss but glad y'all were able to have those last moments with him. I'm praying for strength, mercy and grace for you and the family in the coming days, weeks and months. Please let us know how you're doing if you're feeling up to it.

God bless ~
Guinevere

[Helen]

Dear SFLwife,

Please accept my deepest condolences,my heart is with you.I thank you so much for writing such a beautiful post and sharing it with all of us here.My hope is that peace surround you and your sons as you walk thru the coming days.

Peace and Love
Helen

[GreenMonkey]

so glad you were all there when he passed. it's an honor to witness. thank you for sharing your love for your husband as well as his passing. I hope that knowing he was at peace and surrounded by love is comforting to you. my deepest condolences.

[Mojo]

No one could have done more. His journey has finished and he is now cancer free. May God bless and keep you. Hugs, Sharon

[mstults]

So sorry to hear of his going so quickly but that did allow your family to,do it your way. Thanks for helping us and remember we're here if you feel the need for that help as well. Best of luck and easy transition in the coming days and months.

[so-scared]

Please accept my most sincere condolences. It is so hard to say good bye to the one you love but it is even harder to watch them suffer. His suffering is now over. I pray for peace for you and your family.

(((HUGS)))

DeAnn