I guess the one thing that bothered me the most, and it just shows a lack of awareness, are people saying "You have cancer? What kind? BREAST???" as if that's the only cancer women my age get. And, I'm not taking away from the breast cancer movement, but they've got such a machine behind it that, while more awareness has been brought to it, it kind of leaves other cancers by the wayside (I know that isn't coming out right, but I think all of you can relate to what I'm say
Joy wrote:I guess the one thing that bothered me the most, and it just shows a lack of awareness, are people saying "You have cancer? What kind? BREAST???" as if that's the only cancer women my age get. And, I'm not taking away from the breast cancer movement, but they've got such a machine behind it that, while more awareness has been brought to it, it kind of leaves other cancers by the wayside (I know that isn't coming out right, but I think all of you can relate to what I'm say
I've told this story before but here it goes again....
I was sitting in a very crowded room waiting to be called in for radiation. A very loud and obnoxious woman across the other side of the room said in a "stage" whisper as she pointed
at me..... BREAST? I couldn't resist I said no...... ASS.
I know it wasn't nice....but I couldn't resist.
Similar to the promotion of the link between lung cancer and smoking. My husband, a life-long NON-smoker, has lung cancer. The first question always seems to be "oh are you a smoker", as if everyone who gets lung cancer has brought it on themselves with unhealthful habit. [Sorry to digress...]tahiti wrote:I guess the one thing that bothered me the most, and it just shows a lack of awareness, are people saying "You have cancer? What kind? BREAST???" as if that's the only cancer women my age get. And, I'm not taking away from the breast cancer movement, but they've got such a machine behind it that, while more awareness has been brought to it, it kind of leaves other cancers by the wayside (I know that isn't coming out right, but I think all of you can relate to what I'm saying).
hannahw wrote:Amongst my favorite stupid comments are the ones that start with "why aren't you..." It gives off this feeling of "if only you were handling your disease the 'right' way you'd be cured, or at least doing better, or perhaps more importantly, not inconveniencing the people around you so much. You're basically a reminder of how scary life can be when you're dealing with disease and people don't like to be shaken out of their safe bubble.
As jerky as I find these comments, I do think people make them as a means of facilitating their own coping. Yes, they could put some effort into your coping and actually be supportive, but I think for some people, when they see someone else with disease, they think a lot about what it would mean if they had the disease and they want to feel like there is a way they could control it if it happened to them. Only those who actually have the disease really understand how little control you really have, how you can do all the 'right' things and still get the wrong results.
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