I decided to just start a new subject instead of finding the old one
I went to kohls yesterday and did find some pants with out button/zippers. There were a few by Sag Harbor (they didn't have my size) and some by APT 9. I got 2 pair of black APT 9 pants, the are a spandex/nylon blend (not like a chino) with a tapered leg. They were comfortable. The test will be when I put them on for a "fashion show" and show my 15 year old daughter With a long shirt I am sure they will be fine.
Also, I have started positioning my bag diagonally across my stomach (as suggested by someone on line) instead of just straight down on my leg. This way it just looks like the typical belly pouch, not some weird buldge on one side. Some of my old pants actually looked ok with the bag in this position.
Debbi