Best Friend Put on Hospice Today

[deb1223]

When I was diagnosed with stage 4 cc in July 2010 my best friend moved back from Dallas to be with me. In Nov. of the same year she was diagnosed with Lung cancer. Sadly, today her onc told her there was nothing else they could do. After all available treatments her cancer is spreading everywhere. After she told me I held on until I got back into my car then broke down and cried like a baby. It dawned on me that we had shared so much for so long that I didn't even have anyone to call and talk to about this. Sorry, but you guys are the only real understanding sounding board I have. Hope you understand, my heart is breaking and even though I'm aware my day will come I don't even know what to say to her.

Debbie

[SMR]

I have no advice, or words of wisdom, but I want you to know how much I feel for you. I'll be thinking about you and your friend. I hope you both can find soe peace, though I have no idea how to even begin going about that...

Much love,
SMR

[Patience]

Debbie, I am sorry you have such terrible news. The sadness of loosing a best friend is unique, and I am sorry you are faced with this. My heart feels for you.

[esk2poo]

Debbie,
Thoughts and prayers to you at this horrible time. You know you just have too be there for her. Nothing needs to be said, she just needs you by her.
Good luck and God bless
Allen

[Laurettas]

I have no words of wisdom, only my new oft repeated phrase: Damn cancer.

[Guinevere]

My heart breaks for you and I'm so very sorry. This is a good place to come to vent or just share what you're going through. I'm just so sorry you have to travel this road with her but she couldn't have anyone better to travel it with.
God bless ~
Guinevere

[CheeseHead]

Debbie,

I'm so sorry for your friend and you.

Wishing you all the best,
Cheese

[AngieN]

Debbie, your post really touched my heart, as I'm potentially dealing with a similar situation. I was diagnosed with stage 2B CC in October. I had no support here at home and joined a number of cancer boards looking for help. On one of them I met a wonderful lady who helped me through my surgery and my journey so far through chemo. She had been in remission of ovarian cancer for almost 5 years. About 3 months ago, another met was discovered and her remission is over. She started chemo and was not able to tolerate it. She meets with her oncologist this afternoon to see if there is a plan B available to her. I've never met this wonderful lady - she lives far away from me in OK., I'm in NY. - but she's become my best friend. I completely understand where you're coming from - I have no idea what I will say to her if the news is bad today. I wish I could go and be with her, but I'm still in treatment myself and can't go.

My heart goes out to you and your friend - I wish you the best.

[deb1223]

Thanks everyone for your kind loving words. Please just keep us in your prayers.
Debbie

[alphagam]

Please accept my heartfelt sympathies. A friend's loss will affect you forever.

[NedPlease]

I'm so sorry.

[sheilahincy]

I am so sorry. My Grandmother gave something special before she died from Ovarian cancer. She told me when you see the cloud as it floats by with the sun shinning through. Those will be memories that we shared together. Close your eyes and think of me and I will touch your heart and place my arms around you. I will be with you. Keep your friend close and watch the sky for that special cloud that the two of you can share.

God Bless
Sheila