Lattemoon wrote:I see you are all enjoying my sex topic. Yay!!! At least talking about it is fun, right?
Actually, it's my husband on the chemo, 5-FU only at this time, and he's on a constant infusion pump that he wears like a purse. And there is no pregnancy concern for us....we're too old and also I don't have the necessary uterus, etc.
They did tell us to use a condom, but I guess I'm just being stubborn or stupid and thinking.....why? If he is on chemo, why should I worry about a chance of absorbing a little of it from him once in a blue moon?
I don't know; maybe I'm in denial.
Lattemoon, there is definitely more risk to the receiving partner if the partner on chemo is male--usually men produce more fluids during sex than women, and while membrane to membrane contact is a risk, there is a higher risk from fluid absorption and fluid contact. If you're the receiving partner, you're at risk--not of catching cancer, but of exposure to the chemicals and their side effects.
RE: 'They did tell us to use a condom, but...why? if he is on chemo, why should I worry about a chnace of absorbing a little of it from him?'
It's
poison. Each of us reacts to it differently, and for some of us, only a very small amount in mg/meter-squared is enough to put us in the bathroom for a couple hours or more.
Docs don't give patients (and their families and sexual partners) advice just for the heck of saying the words out loud. Warnings exist because partners are affected, and not in a good way, by absorbing the chemo chemicals during sex. If your husband is on continuous 5FU, then you're at risk.
Would you be equally resistant to this if he had a contagious disease that could be transmitted to you during sex?
No?
Then go buy some condoms! You're not going to catch cancer, but you could get sick from the chemo. And you can't help him if you get sick, too.