FYI Widow's Post: I feel so lost....

[jack]

my heart feels for both of you and my thoughts are with you.
Wamo... I know it is so very hard for you I lost my hubby 24th May last year to this cursed thing and I still am grieving we had been together 23 years. He came home from the hospital on Sunday 18th May as he wanted to be home at the end.
We got married that very afternoon surrounded by both our families and he passed away in my arms the following Saturday.
So I can sort of understand your grief, I have no other advice for you other than that of every one else who has posted.
I have made a special place in the garden which he loved and have a lovely boy angel statue in the middle and I often sit there and talk to him telling him all the news of the kids, grandkids etc I find that a great comfort and feel him close when I am there.
Please feel free to PM if ever you need to I am in Australia too far for phone calls but online if you need me.
Today I buried my wonderful Mum she was 91- so today has been pretty hard for me so close to the 1st anniversary of both the wedding and his passing it bought up so many memories having to go through all that stuff again.
Hug your kids and hug yourself and take all the time you need to grieve it is early days, I still have my "moments" and expect too for a long time.
Take care
Jack

Sharon
a quick note to you too, love and prayers coming your way for you, Brady and your family you guys have been an inspiration to all who come to this board
Jack

[Edward]

Wendy,

There is no rule saying you have to date or marry. Right now it sounds like your beating yourself up for possibly falling in love in the future and being lonely now.

I remember when Mitch Albom's book "For One More Day" came out. There was a special on television about women in your situation that never remarried. They found great comfort that they indeed find there one and only and felt truly blessed by that comfort.

(I wonder if this is on DVD)

The other thing is that is overwhelming is that you have just become chairman, CEO and only stockholder in Wendy, Inc. This happened to my mother-in-law and it has been a tough go.

Take care for now,

[wwroam]

My late wife passed away Oct04, after a very long illness. We had discussed the future, and she very much did not want me to remain alone forever ( I was only 54). There are no rules for bereavement. The catalyst for my changed circumstances was this rotten diagnosis. Chrissie stepped forward and held my hand when I needed it the most. May we have many good years together.

[ed_colon]

We're here for you. I'm sorry for your husbands passing.

[Monique]

I’m so sorry for your loss Wamo. When is it going to get better? Oh, that’s such a tough question. Reading through your post, I am reminded that grief is a very individualized process—what works for some, doesn’t seem to work for others. However, the passage of time seems to be healing (but that doesn’t help in the meantime). And try if you can, not to feel pressured by friends.

I have a close friend who, like you, lost the love of her life. She remarked, a year later, that her feelings of loss are just as intense as they always were, however, she doesn’t experience them every waking hour of the day. Things are getting easier for her. I am not surprised to hear that you are still in shock, as it’s been such a short period of time since Paul passed. At the moment, I wouldn’t worry about dating or the future, as I suspect that these things will fall into place when the time is right. And when it does happen, I wouldn’t worry about rules or how it is one is supposed to act—just being yourself is good enough.

Warm wishes,
Monique

[gigidior@yahoo.com]

I SO KNOW HOW YOU FEEL .IM AN O.C GIRL DEALING WITH THIS AT AGE 40 WITH 4 KIDS AND AM TOO DRINKING A GLASS OF VINO!MY HUSBAND OF 12 YEARS/BUT WEVE BEEN BEST FRIENDS SINCE HIGH SCHOOL ...I SOO FEEL FOR YOU GIRL..I WOULD NOT BE ABLE TO GET OUT IF BED .ID HAVE MY GIRLS BRING ME MY BREAKFAST.IM SO DEVASTATED FOR YOU ...AND IF YOU CANT GET OUT OF BED..OR NEED A BEER OR 3 AT NIGHT...I UNDERSTAND....I AM SO VERY SORRY....PEACE BE WITH YOU MY FRIEND...MICHELLE .M

[wdt]

Just wanted you to know I was thinking about you. I wouldn't push it, I truly believe that you will know when you are ready to move forward. I think it will come gradually over time and then one day you'll wake up and be aware that you have made progress without even realizing it was happening. Take care - wdt

[garbovatwin]

In time, your focus will turn more towards your children and your suvival without your mate, but you will never stop thinking about the love of your life, nor should you.

Corny as it may sound, Time does indeed heal all wounds.

Only you will know when the time is right for the others in your life besides your family. Not being interested in interacting with them now is simply another wound if you will, that will heal, in time.

On a brighter note, you are a beautiful young woman, with two beautiful children, and the future is yours to write.

Stay beautiful.

jA

[Grieving]

Hi Wamo,
I know exactly what you are going through as I have been there.... It will be a year for me this July since I've lost my husband. If you ever want to chat- feel free to PM me sscarola@hotmail.com