Hi all,
My diagnosis anniversary is this week and I can’t help but feel reflective and sappy. Six years ago I was all young and green with this cancer thing and scared out of my mind. It seems like I’m looking back on a different person, not me. This is what I’d like to say to her:
Dear Erika,
I’m so sad for you right now. I know how this feels and there’s no way to cushion it.
I also know what you’re thinking- “Why me? How did this happen to me?” Well there’s just no answer to that. But you are not being punished for something you did or didn’t do.
And speaking of doing things, funny how you were resenting all that stuff you had to do- the workload of a grad student- and now you’d give anything to be in your apartment grading lab reports. This journey will give you a new perspective on what’s important and shuffle those priorities.
That oppressing feeling of fear, it will stick around. It will be there long after treatment ends. But you’ll learn to live in spite of fear and not let it paralyze you. It will motivate you to take chances and fight for what you really want.
You think your spirit is crushed, but you’ll gain strength and confidence that will knock your socks off.
You are sad because you miss your friends, but you are going to see just how much people care about you.
You feel guilty because your parents are in agony, they’d trade places with you in a heartbeat. But your family will be that much stronger for this struggle.
And then there’s the boyfriend, the guy you want to marry. When you see his level of commitment, the sacrifices he makes to take care of you, there will be no doubt he’s the one.
The loneliness as a young colon cancer survivor is hard, but you will eventually connect with people who will change your life and inspire you.
And you think you’ve been abandoned by God, but He’s always faithful to you and you’ll feel blessed.
Right now you think you have no hope, but that is where you are the most wrong.
Love,
The Future You