Hi Loraine,
I am so sorry about your friend - it is a very tough road. Try to find out more about her situation - if you can give us more information, we may be able to help with some specific advice.
Where is she being treated? What has she already tried? Why do the doctors think she can't withstand any additional treatments? There are several options for both lung and liver mets, but it is true that some of these are only options for "healthy" patients who can tolerate a serious medical procedure. For lymph node mets, it is very possible that she could be treated with radiation.
Meanwhile, emergingmed.com is a great place to find and to "match up" with clinical trials. You can search by disease and get a list of current clinical trials, then look at the details to see what the basic requirements are. Also, clinical trials are not necessarily giving up - patients entering phase III clinical trials will get at least the standard of treatment that they would get normally.
Let us know more. We are thinking about you,
Hannah
Hannah K. Vogler
Co-Founder, The Colon Club
cousin of Amanda Sherwood Roberts
dx 1/99 Stage III at age 24
died January 1, 2002 at age 27