Look, I don't intend to offend anyone, supporters.
But when non-patients refer to the disease and its treatment as if it were theirs, it grates on me. Especially when the non-patient refers to "we" when making decisions about care. I know you are devoted to your loved one. I know you are helping do research for them. But IMHO the person who actually has cancer needs to be empowered to make their own decisions, definitely by their doctors and also by you, even if they ask you for advice and/or support. It seems to happen a lot when people are posting about their parents--most of whom are no older than I --although it is not universal.
My mother is 98 years old, living independently. She asks my advice about various things, and I help her out with stuff, do research for her, etc. But when it comes to actually making a decision about her health care or what kind of appliance to buy, I make it very clear that it is HER choice. And in fact my attempting to push too hard on making decisions would NOT go well, lol. That is one reason why she asks me, not my sister, for help.
Okay, I admit that it also annoys me when men say "we're pregnant." Believe me, pal, SHE is the only one who is pregnant, although you are both happily expectant.
Maybe I'm just being curmudgeonly. Maybe I'm a crank.