boxhill wrote:I think it should really depend on how you feel about your relationship and where it might or might not be heading. Which is a completely different question than the medical/procedural ones.
What boxhill said.... 100%
So many energies at work here with your sitrep that it is really, truly NOT
about the disease inside the patient.... It really is about YOU, the patient inside the disease.
My wife would always want to support / accompany me. I love her and valued her support, BUTT ...
frankly did not need hand holding, from my perspective. Sometimes though, I needed to allow her needs,
sometimes I did not, because I did not need the support.
(( 30 + years medical experience and caregiver support already on my own resume
BEFORE I became a CRC patient ))
This will now be NO help I am sure ... BUTT
my situation is not yours
YOU as the patient NEED to have exactly what you NEED to move forward
IF you NEED her there ... question solved
IF .... you NEED to be solitary, in your own space with the treatment process, then
You NEED to have that
It IS great that she wants to be there to support you ... BUTT
if that is what she wants, and not what you NEED
you NEED to have a serious chat about it.
Sorry buddy BUTT a cancer Journey is the ultimate reality therapy for life issues.
and still on the Journey
Cheers and best wishes to both of you