Hello,
I am new here.
I think my husband is in denial about the progression of his disease. His scans suggest a lesion in his sacrum at S1, but he insists any radioactivity showing up on the scans are just changes made by the radiation therapy he went through in 2017. He insists there is no longer any cancer in his spine or pelvis (he had direct invasion to the bone from the colon). I love his positive attitude and I believe positive thoughts are half the battle. But recently, he started having very bad pain in his calf and hamstrings. He insists that he injured himself at the gym. He's been popping Tylenol and soaking in the hot bath to relieve his pain. But it has been over a month and the pain doesn't seem to be getting better.
I made a deal with him to never say anything that would take away his hope. I have to choose my words carefully, and I told him that I was worried that his pain was being caused by cancer. He again insisted it is not. He has zero medical knowledge (I'm a medical journalist), and I wonder if he even knows S1 innervates the calf and hamstring. He is 46.
I can't tell whether he is in denial, is ignorant about his diagnosis, or is just levels above me in positive thinking. I feel like I should "warn" him (eg, "It could be your S1 tumor, we better have it looked at before you lose motor function") but I also don't want to be a negative thinker. I believe our thoughts become reality. My problem is I can't shake these negative thoughts, no matter how hard I try or meditate.
Oh, he also has lost faith in Western medicine. And says he doesn't want to do chemo ever again. Again, I can't tell whether he is in denial or truly believes he is cured.
He has a PET on March 23. I pray there are no changes in his sacrum, and that positive thinking will prevail.
Thank you for allowing me to share these feelings.