Postby Rock_Robster » Wed Feb 12, 2020 5:30 am
Funny I was just discussing this with my therapist today. His view is that the future is unknowable - for everyone, not just cancer patients. But because we have a lot of statistics available to us, we tend to have a false confidence in how we think things will play out (as evidenced by your “maybe a year”, and “knowing what lies ahead” comments). The reality is there is no way to know this for any individual case or person.
Given the future is unknowable, what we can do however is have faith in our ability to cope and handle it, whatever may happen. This doesn’t mean it will necessarily be pleasant, but that we can manage. You have already been through a lot (tough diagnosis, tough chemo, tough surgery), and you have demonstrated repeatedly your competency and capacity to handle adversity. So all you can do is believe in your ability to continue to handle and make the most of whatever the future might bring - positive or otherwise.
Sorry I know this isn’t necessarily great, but I found it more helpful than the “just think positively!” approach.
Rob
41M Australia
2018 Dx RC
G2 EMVI LVI, 4 liver mets
pT3N1aM1a Stage IVa MSS NRAS G13R
CEA 14>2>32>16>19>30>140>70
11/18 FOLFOX
3/19 Liver resection
5/19 Pelvic IMRT
7/19 ULAR
8/19 Liver met
8/19 FOLFOX, FOLFOXIRI, FOLFIRI
12/19 Liver resection
NED 2 years
11/21 Liver met, PALN, lung nodules
3/22 PVE, lymphadenectomy, liver SBRT
10/22 PALN SBRT
11/22 Liver mets, peri nodule. Xeloda+Bev
4/23 XELIRI+Bev
9/23 ATRIUM trial
12/23 Modified FOLFIRI+Bev
3/24 VAXINIA (CF33 + hNIS) trial