I’m so sorry you have to go through such difficult time at home on top of everything, Britincanada. Cancer can be such a train wreck. Not knowing your spouse personally it is hard to know what to say - it could be that he really does not know how to cope, that complete denial is his way of dealing with this (which does not help you!). Although his behavior and lack of empathy seem to go beyond that. I mean, it’s important to have the “difficult talks” but saying that he’ll remarry is incredibly callous.
I’m sorry you lost your dad, but could any of your relatives or British friends come to help you? Have you asked - I can understand that it can be a difficult thing to do, but close friends would understand.
I’m not sure what is going on medically for you (you’re not in treatment? Did treatment fail, are you waiting for surgery, for clinical trials?).
This forum is not going to replace a caring and supportive spouse, but it is a place to express your feelings and get the support of others going through similar, difficult times. Don’t hesitate to voice your anxieties here ❤️
Wife of Dx 04/18 (51 yo). MSS, KRAS G12A
No primary (involuted?)
Lytic tumor L4 vertebrae, EBRT radiation 04/18, SBRT 02/19
Resection small intestine 05/18 (no cancer found - Crohn's)
Failed adjuvant Xelox
Folfiri + Avastin since 03/19
6.7 cm left adrenal mass 03/19, 3.67 cm 12/19, successful resection 02/20
CEA since 03/19: high 58, low 3.2, now 7.6
Scan 03/19: Multiple small lung nodules up to 5mm
Scan 12/19: 2 calcified granulomas, one 1mm stable nodule