Postby boxhill » Thu Jun 27, 2019 2:07 pm
Please don't expect him to "exert himself." Chemo and radiation hit everyone differently. Not only that, but he has the double whammy of having just lost his job. That is a big load to carry. Eventually he will probably regroup and be ready to do more normal stuff. Right now he apparently just needs to rest.
Obviously his illness and the layoff have hit you hard. Now imagine carrying that burden plus physical weakness and nausea and fatigue. This is not a failure to exert himself, this is a need for healing.
I would suggest that you ask for help from friends and family who have offered it to do at least some of the stuff he would normally do,or to do things that you normally pay for, since saving money would probably put you in a better place, financially and mentally. Mowing the grass, for example? Any maintenance projects that really need to get done?
When he is awake, ply him with good-tasting fluids and encourage him to take the anti nausea meds he's been given to get ahead of the feeling. Perhaps ask if he'd like to go for a short walk? Sit up and play a board game or cards or watch something? Also, get out, do something with your friends, etc.
He will get through the treatment. That's what we do.
F, 64 at DX CRC Stage IV
3/17/18 blockage, r hemi
11 of 25 LN,5 mesentery nodes
5mm liver met
pT3 pN2b pM1
BRAF wild, KRAS G12D
dMMR, MSI-H
5/18 FOLFOX
7/18 and 11/18 CT NED
12/18 MRI 5mm liver mass, 2 LNs in porta hepatis
12/31/18 Keytruda
6/19 Multiphasic CT LNs normal, Liver stable
6/28/19 Pause Key, predisone for joint pain
7/31/19 Restart Key
9/19 CT stable
Pain: all fails but Celebrex
12/23/19 CT stable
5/20 MRI stable/NED
6/20 Stop Key
All MRIs NED