Postby AppleTree » Sun Feb 24, 2019 11:29 pm
I was so sick in Austria. My doctors asked if I had made arrangements for my son. I think other countries are just straight up frank. Not that they were saying I was dying, but that I would have less stress knowing these things were taken care of. And you know what...whatever you set up, you can change down the road, if you want. It is just a precaution that your baby is taken care of. Take care of this and you will have alot less to worry about. In this 1 area, maybe we are luckier than the random person being killed by a bus, because we actually have time to consider and prepare a plan for our children. My son has a binder with nationality papers, 2 passports (dual citizen), his and my social security cards, our birth certificates, my medical power of attorney and power of attorney to my chosen people including immediate access to my bank accounts, pass #s for all my debit cards, etc., simple will, and guardianship papers for my son should I be unable to care for him. This is all in a safety deposit box that is accessible by 2 family members. Copies at my lawyers.
I remember when I sent him to my sister and he came to the hospital to say goodbye before going to the airport. I could not even raise my head. And I was very sad, but hid that from him. But I DID get better and now we live together again. But just in case...my safeguards are in place and if I ever have another scare, at least I will not have to worry about his care. And believe me, nobody is going to fight over a moody teenager (my son), but maybe his finances. So, best to have it all spelled out and that is one huge worry off your mind so you can concentrate on YOU.
I hope you will have better days coming up. I know it seems like we worry about strange things, but we have a strange journey.
Diag Feb 5, 2016 Age 45
3 cm tumor 5 cm from verge
Radiation + Xeloda pills - 3000mg 5x week
3/14 - 4/16 - 25 sessions
Shrank just over 50% L nodes 0/13
Remove rectum with temp Ileo 6/17
Reversal 7/20 due to infection
Acute hepatitis August. Chemo cancelled
June to September 2016 - 58 days in hospital
2017
6/16, MRI shadow in lung
Pet - 6.6mm Met in Upper R lobe
7/30 VAT surgery Mass General/Boston
8/24 port
8/30 - 4/28 Folfox. 12 rounds
2018
June CT shows new lung Mets.
July/Oct PETs...CLEAR!