HI beck - Thank goodness for this board as it at least serves as an outlet for me to vent all those thoughts that you have just posted ! Come on here often and perhaps you might feel "less alone" ! It works for me. Not that I'm all a happy bunny now but knowing there are others out there like ourselves makes it a less lonely path.
I was like you a few weeks back and even created a thread separately on how I felt really bad for feeling the way I am feeling due to the pressure and obligation to stay positive and okay for others around me. This was before I approached anyone for help. I eventually went to a counselor who helped me sort out some thoughts. A couple of tips that she provided ..
- Reflect on the last adversity I experienced and how I overcame that with internal strength (not external support). Identify that strength and apply onto this situation. She briefly mentioned that the fact I took the initiative to look for counselling is strength itself
I came to the conclusion one of my strength is not being afraid to ask for help when I needed it, and decided that it is what will get me through this. I hope you find yours at some point. We all have different internal strength and if possible, try to identity it.
I also came to the conclusion that I do not want to pretend to stay positive or happy when I am not. I had a tiff with my husband to stop telling me to be positive because if I could I would have done so by now and need no one telling me that so it's futile saying words like that. I also told him to just let me be upset, get frustrated and get pissed off and I ain't gonna feel positive a single bit just someone he tells me so. He agreed to it. I decided that surely I have the right to get angry and frustrated freely and not have to stay positive for anyone else just because I am "suppose to".
One of my main aim in getting counselling is to help control my frustration against my husband who has unfortunately become an easy target. He has been nothing but supportive and I am trying to curb my frustration when i'm around with him.