I understand the doctors concerns about HRT....BUT....HRT from years ago is NOT the same as it is today. Obviously, if a person has a STRONG family history of estrogen based cancers, I do understand the concern. However, preparations like Premarin which ONLY absorb the hormones vaginally (and honestly don't do much at all for the hot flashes, etc) aren't the same. I also don't think that men, in general, 'get it' about the effects of menopause on a woman. It's not just about the 'hot flashes'....it's about a LOT more.
Here I am, 12 years out from my last period and I still suffer from the side effects of menopause. I was fortunate not to experience much in the way of hot flashes but I still suffer from sleeplessness, vaginal dryness (I'm bad about using my Premarin),moodiness, weight issues (man it IS harder to lose/maintain a healthy weight in menopause). Frankly, I don't know if the memory issues are related to chemo, getting older or menopause.....it's one of the side effects of menopause. Same goes for the urgency to go to the bathroom.....is that because I am older, radiation to my bladder, menopause or a combination of all of it.
My point is that these symptoms/side effects of menopause are REAL and bothersome. They interfere with our lives and while I understand that the health risks of HRT are concerning, to dismiss women (which I think too many doctors do) isn't right either. Temporarily, try natural alternatives such as: Emerita products. They certainly are NOT the same as real hormones but they do help with 'balancing' your moods, etc.
Good luck with your upcoming chemo.
Dx 6/22/2006 IIA rectal cancer
6 wks rad/Xeloda -finished 9/06
1st attempt transanal excision 11/06
11/17/06 XELOX 1 cycle
5 months Xeloda only Dec '06 - April '07
10+ blood clots, 1 DVT 1/07
transanal excision 4/20/07 path-NO CANCER CELLS!
NED now and forever!
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