I'm so sorry to hear of this turn of events, I cant give you any information on your situation but I wanted to let you know I'm thinking about you and your family. The time span during new diagnosis or new discoveries along the way when you don't have all the answers is incredibly hard. For myself I think the uncertainty is far harder then the treatments, I function better when I have a plan or at least know the plan and all the details (side affects) around the plan - it gives me the illusion of control.
Does your husband have the ability to speak to someone about the depression? After reaching out here on the board and reading through some posts I can see a lot of people struggle with it, I'm trying to set up an appointment through our treatment center here to speak to someone myself.
Praying for your family
jan 2018 emergency room via ambulance rectal bleeding event
dx Feb 2018 sigmoid adenocarcinoma 2.5 cm, 3 small extranodal foci resected march 2018
stage 3A T1 n1c
multiple indeterminent nodes in liver, lungs and kidney
11 rounds folfox with oxyplatin stopped with full nephropathy of hands and feet
currently waiting next scan in Feb. 2019