ATCZero wrote:Although the replies aren't exactly what I had hoped for, there is some hope.
I backed out of surgery, instead I'm starting neoadjuvant FOLFOX next week (12 Feb 2018). I couldn't deal with the risks just yet, as I consider that equivalent to a death sentence.
While the surgeon considered this "standard of care," they'll still apparently want surgery even in the off chance that the tumor completely responds. I guess I'll cross that bridge when I'm forced to.
While I appreciate all the input, to me, personally, a life without sexual function isn't a life worth living. We all have our priorities.
I'm a 51YO man (49 when diagnosed so a bit older than you) married to a beautiful woman. Fun in the bedroom (well, anywhere really) has always been high on my list of necessities - much like air, water, food. However, when cancer came knocking there were more important issues than whether or not I could perform in that way. My wife would much rather have me here completely impotent than to bury me. I would much rather be here completely impotent than to not be here. Sounds like you've decided what's most important to you since you're forgoing surgery.
Chemo may or may not get rid of the cancer - surgery will without a doubt get rid of it. If you don't get rid of it completely, then it could be spreading while you're on the chemo. Right now you're stage 1. If the cancer progresses, you could get to where I am - stage 4. And I'm here to tell you, it's no fun ride.
I've had a robotic colon resection, a wide open liver resection with HAI pump implant, 14 rds of systemic chemo, and 5 rds of HAI pump chemo. If my cancer comes back and I was told I could do either chemo or surgery to get rid of it, I'd pick surgery without even thinking about it. Until you've had that poison pumped through your body, you have no clue what you're in for - it's the worst thing I've ever subjected myself to.
If you have a good surgeon, your sex life should be fine. I'm talking from experience. Within 2 hours of being released from the hospital from my colon resection, me and the wife were back at it.
I wish you well.