Mohrfamily wrote:Its like I always tell Sean (which I'm sure still falls on deaf ears) of you don't speak up people can't even attempt to accommodate you whether they can or can't you don't know till its brought up.
You should never feel bad asking for a little slack I've come to realize myself that cancer is a battle that no one but you knows its intensity day in and day out. We as caregivers standing by need to be more understanding of that (which I occasionally forget and focus to much on tough love). I try not to baby my husband but try to remember he needs TLC too.
ginabeewell wrote:I need to get better at letting him know where I am emotionally, so when I'm in a bad place, he doesn't make the mistake of sending me photos via text of the amazing dinner he's having at Nobu Malibu or whatever! NOT HELPFUL
juliej wrote:The strange part was when friends texted me asking how I was doing I'd always reply "I'm staying strong" or words to that effect. I think I felt like I had to be positive for them, which meant I could only be fearful when I was alone. It took me awhile to get what I was doing. There's a difference between a genuine show of strength in the face of the unknown and just putting a "positive spin" on things so my loved ones don't have to worry. Asking for emotional support wasn't quite in my nature.
There's nothing wrong with thinking thoughts like "I’m going to beat this." Equally important, though, is giving yourself the permission and freedom to express just what a hard highway it is to getting there. It is very important to allow yourself to admit at times that you feel ill and scared and whatever else you feel and let someone take care of you.
Pyro wrote:You’re an inspiration Gina, 4 kids while going through chemo??? I’ve had way to many “hiccups” and bad days to take on that kind of responsibility. It took my family a while, but they understand I’m sick and entrusting me with responsibility like that can/will end up causing them more problems when I end up on the couch unable to do anything. My wife just paid for rooms at the Phoenix Grand in May, non-refundable, I told her she’s playing with fire. At some point, everyone is going to have to accept you’re sick and life can’t go on like it used to, at least that is my experience.
I've been able to keep working too. Before my surgery I was working more than full-time and traveling almost every week. Now that I'm back my bosses are trying to keep my schedule a little more manageable, which I appreciate. But it makes me feel lazy. If I'm at home, I want to be in bed! And I feel like my tendency is to slack off when I'm not going a million miles a minute. I also feel guilty because I am in a high level position reporting directly to the CEO, and I get paid well. My husband reminds me that I have worked crazy hours for the 25 years I've been there - and I deserve to take a year to focus on myself. Easier said than done.
kandj wrote:I have always been a giver and fixer. I am the one to organize that stuff, first to sign up, etc.
ginabeewell wrote: It makes me teary thinking about it. They have good hearts and are growing up to be such good kids.
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