I am not sure what you mean about playing my “c card.” Unless you mean that my husband has taken them up on their offer to do “whatever he needs to do” to take care of me? Is saying he would like to accompany me to NY for my surgery “playing a c card?”
His wife has convinced him that my husband is ungrateful and not committed....
ginabeewell wrote:Yes and yes! Much insight from both of you. And yes we will get through it together.
My husband had a stunner line this morning in the shower:
“You guys have it easy. If you don’t want to deal with cancer, all you have to do is fire me.”
Partner was his best friend in addition to creative partner / boss. [...] The latest is a note that basically sets him up to be fired for cause (he’s a partner so if he’s fired for cause, he loses his stake in the company). Among the Lolla incident, it questions his “commitment to the company and his craft” and basically says things haven’t worked out since my diagnosis. That he and the partners feel “frustrated and taken advantage of.”
ginabeewell wrote:Well, my husband had a conversation with one of the other partners today, and it seems this is de-escalating dramatically (good in the short term if not something that we still need to consider in the long term).
The net is that it's only boss/partner who has an issue, but the issue is impacting the other partners (because boss gets pissy and then everyone suffers). [...]
The only thing we don't know what to do about is boss's attitude regarding vacation. The other partner said, "I don't know what to tell you. If any of us take vacation, it's fine. But when YOU take vacation, he freaks out. He hates that you take vacation. It makes him feel all alone."
That issue really doesn't have anything to do with my cancer. It's more a function of the frustration that he feels that they are no longer working as true creative partners the way they once did - something my husband has been wishing they would do more as well.
Maggie Nell wrote:Maybe pyro will drive up to Chicago in his flash car and take them for a spin around the lake.
Everything is possible.
ginabeewell wrote:I am gearing up for my first of two liver resections at MSK, which will be happening next Wednesday the 17th. We will fly out next Tuesday and stay through my follow-up appointment the 29th.
I feel more settled approaching this surgery versus the first one, which is a relief. I've been told to expect to feel worse coming out of it, as it cannot be done laparoscopically. But I know that walking all around NY during my recovery made a big difference, and that is my plan this time around. Hope it isn't too hot!!
juliej wrote:I agree - walking in NYC was critical to my post-surgery recovery! For my first surgery I had a very long abdominal incision (54 staples!) from breast bone to pubic bone. Having to walk up and down the stairs to the subway almost did me in. I had to stop and pant at every landing. But I got stronger very fast because of having to push my body. My apartment was just a few blocks from Central Park and I walked there at least once or twice a day. My surgeon's notes even say "patient walking 5 miles daily in Central Park".
...But when I needed to get groceries, rent a movie, etc. I had to walk there on my own on the very crowded sidewalks and bumpy streets. That (and eating lots of protein) ended up being the best way for me to recover!
ginabeewell wrote:And weirdly for all the walking we did last time, we never made it to Central Park - one of my coworkers told me to get a map and try to walk all of it before we head out.
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