zx10guy wrote:I don't know your relationship and it appears you have a very good marriage. But in my opinion, you need to focus on how life will be very different after cancer. Adding another stress factor to it with a new child is playing with fire. I won't get into details, but I can say cancer and having a newborn has pushed my marriage into the finality of divorce.
hiker wrote:Hey Noho,
I'm a 51 YO man with 3 kids (11, 13 and 15) and I can't imagine life without them - they are my everything. From my point of view, there are several things to consider here. First, the chance of having a baby with birth defects after chemo would concern me greatly. I haven't looked into what chemo could do to my swimmers, but that is some wicked stuff so it has to do something. Second, your husband is 50 YO which is similar to me and although I can do almost everything I could prior to two major surgeries and 14 rounds of chemo I can't do as much of it and chasing around a young baby is not on my short list of things to do. And third, your husband's interest and ability in the bedroom may change after chemo. Prior to chemo, I was still VERY interested in that area. In fact, within 2 hours of being released from the hospital after my colon resection my wife and I were ......I don't think I need to say any more. However, since going through chemo I've noticed a major decrease in my desire and a moderate decrease in my ability to handle things in that area.
I guess what I'm saying is to take it a day at a time. Wait till treatment is over and see how things are going. You and your husband are not too old for a new baby if you both really want that, but take it slow.
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