dauofcamom wrote:My mom was diagnosed in March and had surgery April 7. She’s stage IIIC. She started her first 3-week round of Xelox regime May 16. She stopped eating and was barely drinking anything after I left to go home on June 1.
I live on the opposite coast but flew out there and stayed for 2 1/2 months to be with my mom through surgery, recovery, oncology consults and finally her first round of chemo.
On June 3 she was having intense abdominal pains and went to the ER. She stayed in the hospital for 8 days. She only wanted to sleep. She was not eating in the hospital but she was being hydrated. The doctor sent her home as all her vitals and Bloodwork were good. He felt she could get better at home since she hated being in the hospital.
Once home she still was not eating. Maybe one bite of something here or there. She was barely drinking anything either. She is incredibly weak and frail. On Thursday the onc’s office called her to come in so they could hydrate her. My brother, aunt and dad said she looked better afterward but once home, she refused to eat or drink anything. The nurse suggested an appointment with the nutritionist, but when they got home my aunt said she isn’t going. She’s not doing any more chemo or anything else the doc suggests. She just wants to sleep all day. She doesn’t want to see anyone and she won’t talk to me on the phone.
I am heartbroken and angry and scared and sad. There is nothing any of us can do to motivate her. I think my mom has lost her will to live and just wants to die.
My mom is 75 and up until her cancer diagnosis was really healthy. No medications for anything, no ailments or conditions. How can someone decline so rapidly??? I don’t know what to do.
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