I feel for you going through all of this. I must admit I am a bit like your husband, being stubborn about medical things.... we come like that..LOL
It will be a challenge ahead but you have heaps of friends here.
Please pass on my regards to your husband '..one stubborn guy to another..'! Tell him not to forget about the important issues in life; ie
1-Yourself! Highest priority as you carry quite a load... I see my wife suffering over my cancer and it hurts. So bless you heaps!
2- Football (I am in New Zealand so it is Rugby football) and motorbikes.... Haha
Seriously though do keep in touch. Folk here know what it is like and we care about you both.
Aged 56 - I feel really young...
Colo-Rectal Cancer T2 N1 M0
March 2018 - Diagnosis
April-May 2018 Radiation+Chemo then a TIA (Minor Stroke). - Stopped Chemo.
August 27th-November 2018 - Surgery and long, long recovery
*Decided to live to 100 as I will get a telegram from Her Majesty the Queen when 100yrs old. I so, so want one.
Am a Salvation Army chap so I complete 'knee drill' (prayer) to the Commander in Chief often. For myself personally this helps me through.