Good luck today, Hopegirl! I hope the port placement is smooth and easy for you, as it should be.
As to your other questions, I can only speak for myself, as everyone experiences side effects to different degrees. I take the infusion day off completely, and then I work from home the next four days. I am fortunate that I have a generous work policy where I can work from home and take extended sick leave days so I don't use up vacation. Honestly, I am not good for much for those five days, beyond typing on my computer and doing basic things like showering. I am extremely fortunate to have people around me to take care of meals and cleaning during those days. Do you have anyone who can help you, perhaps with driving the kids to school, and with making sure you are getting proper meals? It is so much better, both mentally and physically, to have someone. If you're not able to, I won't say that those things aren't doable (although I don't think I could drive very well given my cold sensitivity). If you wear gloves and slippers around the house and stay on top of your anti-nausea drugs, you should be fine. However, as my onc says, this is the most important thing you will be doing for the next few months. Having someone else around to take care of other things helps me to focus on recovery.
35 year-old female
May 2017: Dx at T3N2M0
June-July 2017: 28 days of chemo/radiation
September 2017: LAR surgery with loop ileostomy
October 2017: started six rounds of mop-up XELOX