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My ex husband has stage IV medullary thyroid cancer. They moved him into hospice last night. So surreal to read about it here so many times and then see it first hand with the father of my children. I went to go see him with my son. We were both shocked to hear that they said his organs were shutting down, and he only had days to live. His scans were stable only a month ago. He was just playing bongo drums at a gig a few weeks ago. We thought he would be in hospice for months. It broke my heart to see my 6'3" 25 year old son cry. We agreed that I would tell his siblings, and he would tell the other family members. I've let my youngest (20) be in denial for quite awhile, but it was finally time to face the truth. She's just a puppy still wanting her daddy to be there for her. It hurts so much to see them hurting, and there's nothing I can do.

Weird questions come up like what should we do with his van? What about his dog? It's all so sudden. His birthday is Sunday. He might die on his birthday. How sad.

My 22 year old told me that my cancer was not allowed to come back now. God, I hope not.

So sorry for you and your children. So not fair that they have to deal with both of their parents having cancer.
You stay positive as I'm sure you will because your kids need you. Prayers for you and your family. Hugs.

I'm so sorry. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers

Your poor kids!

I'm so sorry you and your family are going through so much. {{{ hugs}}}

I'm so sorry you and your family are dealing with this!*hugs*

I'm so so sorry that you are going through this. May he find comfort and peace and same with your family.

Hugs

I too offer my sympathies to you and your family. I hope he is not in pain.

This had got to be rough for your kids. Both parents dealt with cancer.


(((PainInTheAss and your kids)))

Lee

I'm so sorry.

Thank you all for your kind words.

I agree on the not fair refrain, for sure. When I was diagnosed as a IIIc, I thought that if anything happened to me, they would still have their dad. Men in his family live to 100. So, when he was diagnosed as a terminal stage IV, I just felt like there was no safety net. But all these clear scans have given me more confidence in a long future. I can't imagine them going through this again, at least not any time soon. But they are tough, and seem to be handling things well. I was more worried about them than they were, actually.

They spent the day today with him playing his favorite music and talking to him, but he wasn't responding very much, they said.

F*** cancer.

Just so sad for your kids . Thinking of you all ,
Stu