DonutHead wrote:On 10 August 2017, my colonoscopy reavealed a growth in my sigmoid colon and the Dr. expressed his confidence that it was cancer. The biopsy revealed lowest grade, non aggressive, and encapsulated variety of adenocarcinoma. The Dr. gave me a 95 percent plus prognosis for full recovey. After a blood test revealed I was in excellent health, had a normal CEA count, no markers for cancer in the blood, normal WBC count...A clean CR scan showing no metastisis and a localized tumor....a clean chest xray, i fought for immediate surgery.
Nine days later I had laproscopic surgery and an 8 inch resection of my sigmoid colon with 25 lymph nodes removed. The surgeon was confident that was it. While my life came to a screaching halt, i was confident from the Dr.’s 25 years experience that I would not need chemo, but the biopsy revealed a single lymph node out of 25 that was mildly showing a cancer influence. So from a strong pre-diagnosis ot T1/2 N1a M0 and Stage I, I quickly went to T3a N1 Mx and Stage IIIa.
This was yesterday and I am devestated. My wife broke down...
Tomorrow we go in to discuss options with an oncologist that has the highest reviews and over 31 years experience in treating colon cancer. While not afraid to undergo chemo - it has to be done - I am concerned about how much it will affect me physically. My wife and I have two boys and were planning on working on a girl as our third and final child once we were settled in our next overseas assignment...now I am worried about retrograde ejaculation, infertility from surgery and chemo, everything. The cancer is not genetic.
I want chemo now, I want it out if my body completely, but I do not know what to expect from treatment, side effects, duration, long term effects...I am scared.
As an aside, my beautiful wife saved my life. At our last assignment and while sitting on the toilet reading a men’s health magazine, where the article read, ‘10 signs a man should never ignore!’, i noticed light blood in my stool. it was number one on the list! i told my wife and we watched it come and go over 3 months and then when in between assignments, she made the colonoscopy appointment and made me keep it! She was certain it was a hemorrhoid, but alas it was game changing cancer.
i have a brilliant family and support network, but my life which was just hitting it’s stride on the way up from a hard slog with work over the past several years, came to a screeching halt! I have my health, my family, a positive attitude, outlook, and overall perspective...but i am damn scared!
i am not a smoker, occassional whiskey and red wine drinker, run 4 miles a day, work out, eat healthy, no junk food, no sugar, no fried foods, processed meats, limited red meat intake, fruits and vegetables guy...nothing! but here i am...
sorry, guys! you are all dealing with your own circumstances, but i greatly appreciate anything you can give me in terms of encouragement or good news stories. my family, my wife, my friends are all there for me, but i really need to hear from others who know what i am thinking, feeling, fearing...
God Bless You All!
You and I are in the same freaking boat! We have to find our resolve and do whatever we need to to get this shit out of our body. We want our normal back and resent this surprise! Stay strong and get a counselor. I'm going to. I need to. I have to. I was like you too- get this out now and let's get this treatment done. Scared beyond words. But we have no choice.