I just happened upon this thread (new here) and we are very similar, sans age. I'm sorry you have to be experiencing this. I'm 27, diagnosed stage 3A the middle of June. A couple of years ago they thought I had a prolapse but decided it was a hemorrhoid and put it back. I had bleeding after that consistently but was refused two flex sigmoidoscopies because of my age.
I am in MA and I initially started at Lahey. I had my diagnosis there and resection surgery at the end of June, robotic laparoscopic by a very talented Dr. who is now in the process of becoming head GI surgeon at Mass General. I had a lot of difficulty in the Boston area as well getting initial communication. Lahey dropped the ball. My oncologist there didn't seem interested or concerned about my situation at all and Lahey lost my FMLA paperwork twice. I decided to call Dana Farber. They took a week and many phone calls. In the end, the treatment recommended for me was the same across the board (FOLFOX) and I pulled out of Dana Farber to give other people the appointment spots who might've needed it more. I ended up at Mass General - they communicated with me immediately and got the ball rolling. They set up appointments for me with a great oncologist, social worker, fertility specialist, and radiation specialist (to weigh out pros and cons of radiation), and got me into chemo 3 weeks before Lahey even wanted to start me on it. I had a hard time with the FOLFOX and they got me everything I needed right away, including IV fluids and a hook up to 3 extra anti nausea meds. They provide free acupuncture and massage therapy. They have a 24/7 oncologist and a 2 9-5 GI nurses I can speak to with questions or concerns. I know you want to do the chemo and radiation locally - find a good place. Check out the facility and make sure you're comfortable there. Make sure you can call them anytime you need to. It's worth it.
Since you like to write, might I suggest keeping a journal?
I've found it helped me a lot and it helps me keep track of my good and bad days, medicines, and symptoms. I also use social media to connect with other people going through this. Facebook has many great groups of people going through all of this that can share their experiences, ideas, information, and questions with you and because they're groups, it's private. I find it helps to be able to talk to other people on there. I don't know about local support groups though!