Hi and welcome, sorry for the reason you are here.
Who told you had incurable cancer? If it wasn't a surgeon, you might want to get there opinion 1st before assuming you are "incurable". Have you had surgery yet?
Avoid Dr. Google. If you must look, know that most of the info out there is out of date or flat out wrong.
Know that many people are beating this cancer today. When I was diagnosed over 13 years ago, I was told by a few Dr.(s) I only had a 30% chances of being alive in 5 yrs. FOLFOX was experimental than, and has put many people in to NEDville (like me) and are very much alive today. That chemo and a few others have increase people beating this cancer. If I was diagnosed today with my same staging, I would be told I have a 75% chance of being alive in 5 yrs. The next new break through is "Immune therapies". We are fortunate to have 2 knowledgeable people on this forum who are up to date on clinical trials on immune therapies. They are Maia and DK37 (Tom). DK37 has a sticky near the top.
If you have not already done so, get a 2nd (or even 3rd) opinions at major cancer treatment centers or hospital.
There is a thread you might want to read. Celine was given months to live, she is NED today. Her thread has help other people get into the program that saved her life.viewtopic.php?f=1&t=49736
You will find a lot of knowledgeable people here. We are very fortunate to have this forum with all the support and knowledge.
Please know that a stage IV cancer diagnoses is NOT a death sentence. There are many people who are very much alive, healthy and cancer free. When I was diagnosed, I knew of a women who was told there was nothing they could do for her because of her liver mets. She got a 2nd opinion at MD Anderson in Houston, TX. They treated her and she is NED today. SO do not give up the hope.
So if you have not already done so, get that 2nd opinion at a major cancer treatment center.
All the best and welcome,
PS Edited to add, Dr. Kemny with Sloan Kettering Memorial in New York City has put a lot of people with liver mets into NED status. There are options out there. It's just finding the right Dr that works best for your wants and needs.