So sorry to hear about your troubles with your husband, but understand that some people are more mature than others. You appear to be in a good mature mindset, which is good for both issues you are facing. Clearly your husband has made a poor choice based on what we see in you here on this blog. You are thoughtful, considerate and well educated. I am certain that you know that you deserve better from a spouse. Make sure you tie into a church group, neighbors, and/or friend to help you get through this with some support. We are all here too!
As for Larry, that is good news to kick him out! You have many friends here Beans Mama and you do have the respect of many on this board based on all of your thoughtful posts and concerns for others who post here.
Remember, you can only fight the six inches in front of your face, all other things can be fought later down the road. Take care of what is right in front of you and then move along to the next thing that is right in front of you... Slow and steady and little bits of dealing with these issues will help you compartmentalize them and win them individually when the time is right.
We are glad the fight against cancer is on the upswing. Stay strong and know you are not alone:)
Spouse of wife 47 years old
10/2014, Stage IV Metastatic CC
Lymph node involvement 12/15, w/ positive PET on para-aortic lymph nodes.
5 cm sigmoid tumor resection as well as positive Virchow lymph node.
KRAS mut, Highly Differentiated, Lynch Negative
Folfox and Avastin 1 YR (Oxi for 5 months) NED 05/2015
Zeloda and Avastin since 01/2016
Chemo break 03/2017, back on Zeloda and Avastin 04/2017.
"...Perseverance is not a long race; it is many short races one after the other."