Beansmama Checking in

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Re: Beansmama Checking in

Postby LPL » Thu Jun 15, 2017 1:50 pm

Dear BeansMama,

Inorganic8 wrote:
Here's what I hope and pray and wish for you:
1. Next month you will be NEL (No evidence of Larry)
2. You will do whatever other treatments you need and just keep feeling better and better until you are officially NED.
3. You live a long, happy, fulfilling life.
4. It would be nice if this jack wagon realized the magnitude of his mistake and the hurt he caused you, but you'll be too busy with item 3 on this list. Success is by far the best revenge.
5. If some multi-billionaire falls madly in love with you, that's just icing on the cake.

Wow :) I Totally agree !
If my English and writing was better - that is precisely what I would have written in my previous post :!:
DH @ 65 DX 4/11/16 CC recto-sigmoid junction
Adenocarcenoma pt 35x15x9mm G3(biopsi) G1(surgical)
Mets 3 Liver resectable
T4aN1bM1a Stage IVa 2/9 LN
MSS, KRAS-mut G13D
CEA & CA19-9: 5/18 2.5 78 8/17 1.4 48 2/14/17 1.8 29
4 Folfox 6/15-7/30 (b4 liver surgery) 8 after
CT: 8/8 no change 3/27/17 NED for now :D
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Re: Beansmama Checking in

Postby DarknessEmbraced » Thu Jun 15, 2017 2:10 pm

How awful your husband did that to you!*hugs* I'm sorry you're dealing with an upcoming divorce! *hugs* I'm glad you will be having surgery and that you have out driving! Wishing you all the best!
Diagnosed 10/28/14, age 36
Colon Resection 11/20/14, LAR (no illeo)
Stage 2a colon cancer, T3NOMO
Lymph-vascular invasion undetermined
0/22 lymph nodes
No chemo, no radiation
Clear Colonoscopy 04/29/15
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Ischemic Colitis 01/21/16
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Re: Beansmama Checking in

Postby benben » Thu Jun 15, 2017 5:46 pm

Ouch Beansmama, that's a serious stress you really didn't need.
Hang in there! Focus on yourself, your children, and getting Larry the hell out of dodge!

Many hugs!
3/29/17 diagnosed CRC - 44 y/o Male
4/17/17 ULAR - Straight anastomosis - no ostomy.
Path: low grade T3n1m0 - moderate diff.
KRAS - NO, MLH1/PMS2/MSH6/MSH2 - Normal.
5/3 med port install
5/22 folfox - first treatment.
3rd treat, delayed - low ANC - reduced to 90% OXI
Granix given, Now Zarxio treatments every session.
Treatment 7 reduced to 75% OXI
Treatment 8-12 - NO OXI, just Luke and 5FU
Current - 12 treatments done, CBC good, CEA decreasing.
10/20/17 CT-SCAN - CLEAR! - NED

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Re: Beansmama Checking in

Postby behconsult » Thu Jun 15, 2017 7:49 pm

Beansmama, I am glad that surgery is on the horizon and the Keytruda did the trick. My 2 cents-Go slow on all the other loose issues. Move at a pace that feels natural and right. At this stage you probably go between shock and disbelief with a little bit of betrayal and are pissed as all get out-rightly so. If possible try some couples therapy even if the therapy itself is about divorce. Peace to you and may this burden get lighter. Bob
Stage 3B Age 52
T4; 2/16; spot on perit
Resctn 6/9/2014
Folfox strt 7/2014. 6 of 12 tx
Chemo induced DM2
Pet 4 mets to lung (1 cm, 6 mm) Xeloda/Avastin 9/16 to present.
Cryo-ablation to three spots- Collapsed lung/chest tube 5/17. One more spot to go.

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Re: Beansmama Checking in

Postby mymom » Thu Jun 15, 2017 9:02 pm

I am glad you are doing better on the CRC front.
As for the affair, so sorry. So many of us have had to experience that. My husband during his alcoholic years started a 3 year affair with his first cousin when I was 8 months pregnant with my third and my mother was just diagnosed with her second primary cancer (stage 1 breast) a week before. It is trauma. Especially when you need them and expect they will be there for you. You need to make sure you get support and talk to someone. Get a therapist that has dealt with this before. Also join a support group. I am so so sorry you have to go through this at a time that you are kicking cancers butt. Hang in there.
Stage 4 CC DX 5/11
colon/livr rsct 5/11(1 met)
Folfox July-11/11
NED to 5/12
New Primry BC-4/12,Stage 1
2 livermet 5/2012
Liver rsct,HAI 6/12,Folfiri
NED to 10/13,1 liver met,ablation, Folfiri
NED to 12/14, another spot
3/15 NED
Ablation 1 liver met 10/15
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Re: Beansmama Checking in

Postby jortego128 » Fri Jun 16, 2017 7:42 pm

Congrats Beansmama on the Keytruda success! I hope and pray that they will get Larry out of there ASAP!!! :D
DM 57 yrs old dx 6/8/15 T:4a N:1b M:1
KRAS G12D and TP53 C242fs mutations
Poorly Differentiated, Prominent Signet Ring Component(~50%)
Microsatellite Stable, 3 of (13)lymph nodes positive
15 Liver mets, largest 3.2 cm
Prim. Resection, Right Hemicolectomy 6/21/15
Start Chemo 7/20/15
2 rounds FOLFOX, 1 round FOLFOX +Avastin
CT 8/28/15, met growth, largest 4.5cm
4 rounds FOLFOX+Avastin
CT 11/06/15 mets stable, lungs clear
Begin FOLFIRI+Avastin 11/17/15, Stop chemo 1/26/16
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Re: Beansmama Checking in

Postby Maggie Nell » Fri Jun 16, 2017 7:53 pm


This is Big Larry from Kingston in South Australia.

Glad to hear the Keytruda has given you a valued outcome. Hope a redhot man comes into your life
because there is nothing sweeter than a revenge bonk. Take no prisoners.

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35mm poorly diff. tumour found upon emergency r. hemicolectomy
for ileo-colic intussusception.
Lymph nodes: 0/22
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Re: Beansmama Checking in

Postby mypinkheaven » Sat Jun 17, 2017 2:27 pm

July!! Nothing matters right now except getting rid of Larry. You alway have my best wishes. 8)
MSS, KRAS Wild NRAS Mutated
9/2012 Colon Cancer IIB Lft Colectomy 0 lymph nodes 0 Chemo
10/2013 CT clear
11/15 CEA 2.7 to 4.6
11/15 Spread to uterus. Hysterectomy
2/16 Pelvic radiation 25, brachytherapy 3
4/16 - 6/16 Xeloda
6/16 CT Several lung nodules less than 5 mm.
8/16 CT Nodules still present. Most stable. Some growth
10/16 CT Same ^. Onc recommends no tx :evil:
11/16 Transfer to UCSD Moores
12/16 Folfox + Avastin failed
2/17 Folfiri + Erbitux
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Re: Beansmama Checking in

Postby WarriorSpouse » Sat Jun 17, 2017 4:30 pm

So sorry to hear about your troubles with your husband, but understand that some people are more mature than others. You appear to be in a good mature mindset, which is good for both issues you are facing. Clearly your husband has made a poor choice based on what we see in you here on this blog. You are thoughtful, considerate and well educated. I am certain that you know that you deserve better from a spouse. Make sure you tie into a church group, neighbors, and/or friend to help you get through this with some support. We are all here too!

As for Larry, that is good news to kick him out! You have many friends here Beans Mama and you do have the respect of many on this board based on all of your thoughtful posts and concerns for others who post here.

Remember, you can only fight the six inches in front of your face, all other things can be fought later down the road. Take care of what is right in front of you and then move along to the next thing that is right in front of you... Slow and steady and little bits of dealing with these issues will help you compartmentalize them and win them individually when the time is right.

We are glad the fight against cancer is on the upswing. Stay strong and know you are not alone:)
Spouse of wife 47 years old
10/2014, Stage IV Metastatic CC
Lymph node involvement 12/15, w/ positive PET on para-aortic lymph nodes.
5 cm sigmoid tumor resection as well as positive Virchow lymph node.
KRAS mut, Highly Differentiated, Lynch Negative
Folfox and Avastin 1 YR (Oxi for 5 months) NED 05/2015
Zeloda and Avastin since 01/2016
Chemo break 03/2017, back on Zeloda and Avastin 04/2017.

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Re: Beansmama Checking in

Postby BeansMama » Sun Jun 18, 2017 1:19 am

Thank you everyone,

Your support has moved me to tears - but good tears.

I am seeing a therapist to make sense of the whole debacle. I have been for a little while now and I think that is one reason why I am doing much better with the whole thing.

I did make a stipulation when I first found out that absolutely nothing would happen in that department until I was healthy and recovered enough that I no longer needed assistance with some things and that I was able to be on mom duty 24/5 or whatever visitation we work out without any issues. So for now we live as room mates trying to co parent and be at least civil to one another. Some days it is easier than others.

I keep telling myself this too will pass and my future will be brighter than ever. If I can tackle all of this, anything else is a piece of cake.
41 yrs old
Tumor found 9/2015
Surgery 1 - 11/2015 LAR and colostomy
Surgery 2 - 11/2015 wound vac
Surgery 3 - 12/2015 revise resection, move colostomy
Mets to liver - tumor inoperable - one add'l met destroyed
Stage IVa (T3 N2a M1a)
Primary tumor 9 cm x 7.5 cm x 2 cm
Beginning Folfox 1/2016 - Failed
Beginning Folfiri and vectibix 8/2016 — Failed
Beginning Folfirinox + Avastin 11/2016 - Failed
Beginning Keytruda 1/2017
CEA drop from 345 to 7.3 after starting immunotherapy
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Re: Beansmama Checking in

Postby stu » Sun Jun 18, 2017 1:52 am

I think your so right . You have faced the worst and still making a life for yourself. You sound very wise.
I have a friend who being very disappointed herself raised three very successful children . Two were head boy/girl , all three were bright and successful but also very enjoyable company. I often wondered how she achieved it. One day I asked her and very quickly she told me that she protected them from the reality of their situation. As they got older they made their own accurate judgement . I thought it was a total act of selflessness and I see that in you. You are quite incredible.
Take care,
supporter to my mum who lives a great life despite a difficult diagnosis
stage4 2009 significant spread to liver
2010 colon /liver resection
chemo following recurrence
73% of liver removed
enjoying life treatment free
2016 lung resection
Oct 2017 nice clear scan . Two lung nodules disappeared

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Re: Beansmama Checking in

Postby michelle c » Tue Jun 20, 2017 9:09 am

I am so happy for you that your cancer is responding well....but sorry for your other deserve better!
Stay strong...we are here for you.
Take care of yourself...sending love and strength your way.
25 May 09 Dx with CC (sigmoid colon) 2 days after my 44th b'day
CEA prior to surgery 4.7
3 Jun 09 LAR - Stage III 3/10 lymph nodes
6 Jul - 10 Dec 09 12 cycles FOLFIRI
Genetic testing - inconclusive for Lynch
Jul 12 port removed & hernia repair

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Re: Beansmama Checking in

Postby juliej » Tue Jun 20, 2017 6:41 pm


So happy to hear Keytruda is working for you and Larry is about to get served his eviction notice! :D But I'm sorry to hear about the pending divorce. :cry:

Your spirit is so strong, may it remain unbroken and untouched by this. You are fighting for your life, don't let this sad excuse of a husband deter you in any way. Take care of yourself and your kids. The end of a relationship is devastating for sure, but there is happiness down the road for you! Sending prayers and good thoughts your way!

Hugs to you,
Stage IV, liver/lung mets 8/4/2010
Xelox+Avastin 8/18/10 to 10/21/11
LAR, liver resec, HAI pump 11/11
Double lung surgery + ileo reversal 2/12
Adjuvant Xeloda 3-9/12
VATS rt. lung 12/21/12 - benign granuloma!
NED 3/17/12 to 5/11/2018, CEA<1

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Re: Beansmama Checking in

Postby Cowgirl918 » Tue Jun 20, 2017 8:36 pm

Now I know why you have been constantly on my mind. I feel disbelief so I can't imagine how hard this has been and is for you. I am so encouraged to hear about the treatment though! You are so loved and supported by so many. I think you may be the strongest person I know. Take care of yourself and the kids. Be kind to yourself in every way.
HX Colon Polyps Villious and Tubillovillous
12/29/15 Colonoscopy/Endoscopy - Ascending Colon Mass- Hemicolectomy Scheduled
1/17/2016 Right Hemicolectomy Cancelled
1/25/2016 CT No evidence of other disease
2/12/2016 EMR-ascending colon mass 80% removed
5/29/2016 Compressed lumbar spinal fracture (riding accident)
8/12/2016 EMR #2 ascending colon mass curative
8/13/16 NED
10/18/16 Autoimmune Diseases confirmed

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Re: Beansmama Checking in

Postby tarheelmom » Tue Jun 20, 2017 9:55 pm


I am so happy to hear about Larry's approaching demise. I am so very sorry about your marital situation. You are handling everything with amazing grace. Continued prayers from a fellow Tarheel!
52 y at dx, mom to 4
DX: RC on 2/22/2016
Stage I, T2N0M0, 0/32 LN
23 mm x 7 mm moderately differentiated invasive adenocarcinoma
3 cm from anal verge
4/12/16: ULAR, TME, & temp ileostomy
6/14/16: ileo reversal

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