Postby Swirdfish » Tue Jun 20, 2017 9:12 pm
What a horrible time for both you and your husband, especially with a baby on the way, and him diagnosed with two primary's. The biggest thing you can do is stay away from the internet, I know its not that easy too as you want answers, and just take it one day at a time. Keep in regular contact with you health professionals and ask as many questions as you need. Even write notes, as I know for me and my partner we often forgot due to information overload.
Not an easy path and often my wife blamed me for getting sick, and even got to a point where she hated me for it. This is the time you both need to work together, and be aware of your stress levels etc for the baby.
Mine was mucinous but im not sure if it was CRC, but after awhile i stopped reading about it and concentrated more on my health and wellbeing, as well as focusing on my treatment. Usually the internet didn't provide much answers besides this forum, so you are continually looking and reading the worst.
Family became more important to me. Work came second.
See a therapist if you both need one. I have one now, and he is awesome. Its good to vent to them and let it all go, sometimes it will make the world lift off your shoulders. Get sleep, limit coffee and sugar, and stimulate the brain with other activities while you can, instead of thoughts on cancer.
06/2016 Went in for colonoscopy came out with a tumor. Age 35
12cm from verge at junction. Rectal cancer.
Clinical stage T3 NO MO
Temp illestomy
Completed 5FU and Radiation
LAR surgery planned 13 Oct 2016
Completed ULAR surgery 11-10-2016.
0/22 nodes
pT3 N0 M0 R1
Stage 2A
Pathology reviewed and changed
ypT3 N0 M0 R0
Started folfox 21-11-2016
5-4-17 NED
Reversal 12-4-17