GrouseMan, Just a few quick lines here. When my DH got so thin he wanted to sleep on an air mattress we had (like those you buy @ Costco for extra guests). Had some of the hospice foam mattress topper some friends gave us (w/channels between foam), but suppose egg crate foam topper would work. I also had a very nice, puffy, quilted mattress pad on top of that. He could adjust the air to his comfort level.
Hospitals don't tell you this, but they have air mattresses too (available upon request). At least I asked the hospital & sure enough, they had "very few", but had them.
For my mother, I requested soap-free laundered sheets due to skin sensitivity.
Don't be shy.
Stressful times all the way around. Agree w/you regarding hospice (there is a time & place for it), sometimes hard to make that call. Hang in there.
Best wishes for some answers regarding nausea/vomiting & kudos to you for not drinking that doc's koolaid who wanted to send her home like that.
DSS,35YO,unresect mCRC DX 7/'14,lvr,LN,peri,rib
FOLFOX+Avstn 4 Rnds d/c 10/'14
Gone From My Sight 2/20/15
Me:garden variety polyps + precancerous polyp, diverticulitis
Carergver x2 DH,DM dbl occupancy,'03-'10
DH dx 47YO mCRC,'04-'07 fried x HAI
DM dx CC 85YO,CC,CHF,stroke,dementia,aphasia