Sharon Brent wrote: . . . Or are they just Stupid and have no concept of what a loss I have suffered.
BINGO! They have not walked in your shoes and have NO idea what you are going thorough. I lost my dad early in life (12 yrs old, Vietnam war), it would be 5 YEARS before I could even say the words. And many times (during those 5 yrs), all I said, he's not here right now. How I got by (during those 5 yrs) was by accepting the fact that he was not there, butt death was more than I could accept. We all mourn at our own pace. NEVER let someone tell you when you should move on. You will do that when YOU are ready. It would be many more years for my mother, at 2yrs the pain is very RAW!
This is for your girls, a friend of mine who also lost her dad early in life. She said accepting the death of a parent, is accepting the fact that your childhood just ended. That comment is so true. The pain, the loss, everything that says things are not normal and will never be the same, will impact them. This does not mean they will grow up bad or wrong, it just means there life is now different from there friends, and they will have to grow up fast in some respect. And they will be slower in other aspects simply because they are "numb" for a lack of a better word. I always felt I was a few years behind my friends. Butt make no mistake, I would go off to college and I would marry a guy and we are still married today. As would my friend. Not bad, some of my friends were married 2 times, one was married and divorce 4x.
Counseling is always a good idea, and yes, sometimes finding new and different friends is good, especially someone who has walked in your shoes.
(((Sharon))) so sorry you are dealing with this.
Edited to add this. I grew up in mostly a smaller town, we lost our dad. Another women with 2 kids would lose her husband 6 months prior to my dad's death. Everyone thought my mother and her should get together simply because they both experienced a loss and had a lot in common. Both my mom this women both decided they would NOT want to meet each other. 3-4 yrs later, they would meet at a get together. They both decided to make small talk, would find out they both had this "crazy sense of humor" and would become fast friends. Is it because they both lost a mate or because of who they were "long before they got married", nobody knows. Butt they would support in each other through the years and would have a friendship that would last a last a life time for them both.