Postby recruiter » Wed Jan 04, 2017 3:05 pm
I understand how you feel.
I am treading water, with a rectal tumor that has responded nicely to treatment - but not nicely enough to allow removal with the margins necessary to make a recurrence anything less than a certainty. Meanwhile, I have lung mets that are shrinking or stable because I let the cancer get away from me - the reason is in the next paragraph.
I am 56 years old, and for the last 20 years of my life I was the caregiver for my Mom, the most significant person in my life. My diagnosis, last Jan. 29, started her on a health spiral - she took the news of my cancer MUCH worse than her strokes and heart issues - that ended with her passing on May 13, so I feel to a degree like my tumor cost me both my best friend and my health. Many have the times been since those initial dark days that I've been fine with the end being at hand, if that's His will.
But then I remember Mom - how desperately she wanted me to push this fight as far as it will go. And I remember the one thing in my life I hated more than anything else - to disappoint her. Everything that's good in me is her; the bad is me. I have no regrets about choosing Mom's care over my own. I would do it the same.
So, I owe her the fight. I press on. Xeloda and Avastin. I am still in good enough shape to work, although some days it wears me out, which is great because I'm blessed with wonderful health insurance.
That's what I promised Mom, before I lost her. And that's what I will deliver, until I hold her hand again.
DX Stage 4 2/16 with lung mets
4/16 CT, PET show "marked improvement" in size and number of lung mets, rectal tumor.
8/16 "Great report" from scans, lung mets continue to shrink in size and number, CEA 1.6, cancer "in remission" but surgeon believes tumor remains too large.
10/16 Xrays for constipation problems reveal tumor occupies 25 percent of rectal canal: Occupied 80 percent upon diagnosis 2/16
12/16 Back on Avastin; tumor can be removed, but need better margins.