3shewolf8 wrote: Whatever she wants or needs, I'll be there. Thank you all for the guidance!! I want to be the best friend I can be.
Maia wrote:3shewolf8 wrote: Whatever she wants or needs, I'll be there. Thank you all for the guidance!! I want to be the best friend I can be.
One can feel you're already wonderful to her; the feelings you have manifested here are those of love. May your friend and you be free from suffering and the causes of suffering. Wishing you the best.
3shewolf8 wrote:I feel lost right now. I went to visit my friend yesterday and she barely spoke to me unless I asked questions. She knew I was coming over, a couple other ladies arrived too. We all work together. I was told a few days ago that I was being moved into a different role at work, and it happens to be the role my friend had. We are both supervisors and I am being moved to take over her team, and they are going to open bids for my role. The company has held her job for her for 6 months and the team is not doing well without direct supervision. Our manager did call to tell her what was going on, so she brought it up when I was there. I feel bad for her because she really loves her job, but I have to do what I am told because it's my job and I love it too. Her team is very welcoming to me coming over, but I know that there will forever be animosity from her toward me for doing my job. She was very chatty with the other ladies, but basically pushed me out of the conversation. Believe me when I say I was completely uncomfortable and hurt. I took her money from a fund raiser that we had, and had a huge turkey that someone had donated for their Christmas dinner. I decided to say good bye after about 30 minutes because of the awkwardness. Her husband went to the car with me to get the turkey and told me that he didn't know what they were going to do with such a big turkey. I told him to have it at Christmas, then he said I don't have room in our freezer, and I replied, that it was cold enough to keep it on their enclosed porch and it would stay frozen. he agreed to that. Then he told me that when my friend got the call about her job, she completely lost it and bawled and yelled and had an absolute melt down. And then he went on to tell me how she had busted her "ass" there for so many years and was so proud of the team that she built and now she is having that taken away from her because she has cancer. He was literally yelling at me! I told him that it wasn't my idea, and that it is a business and they have to keep running, and then I went on to tell him that when she comes back to work, she will have a job. His response was, maybe, but it won't be in the same department or the same team. I left there feeling terrible about things. I am going to give her and her husband more distance. I have not been pushy, but now things have changed. Maybe they feel that they have to blame someone, so they might as well blame me. I don't know. She is very close with another lady right now who is also going through her own battle with cancer, a different kind, but they can talk to each other and compare treatments, medicine, etc. I am happy that she has someone that she can relate to, and I will continue to support her decisions and hope that she makes it through this ultimate battle. #feelingsosadandlost
3shewolf8 wrote:Thank you all for the guidance!! I want to be the best friend I can be.
weisssoccermom wrote:I really doubt that your friend is mad at YOU but rather she is just angry at the world... She may or may not come around to understanding that you had nothing to do with it.....but you can't blame yourself or keep trying to fix it. If she wants to fix the relationship....it has to come from her. I know it's hard but...you have to let her be right now. Hopefully she will understand that you had nothing to do with it and take a step towards repairing your relationship.
In at the beginning of this process and having a posterior pelvic exenteration. Colon, rectum, hysterectomy including vagina (vaginectomy).
Going for loop ileostomy tomorrow then five weeks of radiotherapy and low dose chemo tablet ahead of my "evisceration". Surgeon is pretty hopeful I can get through this and have a 70% chance of making it past 5 years. It's pelvically confined.
Very scared but it's mucinous adenocarcinoma with signet ring cell which I know it's very aggressive. Have two teenage children so hoping to live and see them grow up. Any ideas, hints, tips would be great. I live in the UK.
Thanks all xx
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