3shewolf8 wrote:I can't believe how long it's been since I was last here. My friend's cancer is back in her abdomen with a vengeance. She now has METS in her lungs and liver. She has started Chemo again only to slow down the growth to give her more time. She has slipped into a deep depression and sits on the couch all day, and night. She is losing her hair in handfuls, and has gained a lot of weight. Her husband is at his wits end and tries to get her out of the house more. She is seriously thinking about not getting any more Chemo. The only thing keeping her alive now are her two grandkids, but since she feels so terrible, she isn't able to do anything with them anymore. She has stopped seeing visitors, and would prefer to not even see her family. Of course, I am respecting her wishes. Please include her in your prayers and thoughts.
3shewolf8 wrote:Hello everyone. Now it has been over a year since I posted on here. My friend decided to retire and spend as much time as she has left enjoying her grandkids. She has basically disappeared from my social circle. She posts on FB every now and again, but when I text or message her, she replies with one word responses or not at all. I found out that she is in a trial to see if the doctors can buy more time for her. At her last test, the tumors are growing again. over 21% growth was shown after a few months on the trial. She is unable to process the contrast due to her low kidney functions. She is not being social at all, rarely leaves the house and stays inside. after I sent her a message on FB telling her that I missed her and asking how she was doing, she unfriended me. I am taking this as the final "push away" or "please don't contact me" not so subtle message. From my earlier posts, you can see that she pushed me away before, and some of your replies said that maybe I am a reminder of the life that she no longer has. I agreed, but then she reached out to me. Now, she is closing me off all the way. I am not overbearing, I didn't "bother her" very often, and had commented only positive messages on any of her FB posts. She was posting pictures of her grandkids, or talking about how much she loves spending time with her family, very rarely did she mention her cancer, and I didn't either. I want to thank you all for your suggestions and comments to me on how to handle losing her as a friend. I will never be able to understand what she is going through, so I am following her lead.
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