6 months after surgery and Cancer is back?!

[dmondgirl]

Hello Everyone,

My fiance had surgery back in March 2016, due to an internal leakage he had a drainage for 5 months... finally removed on 8/23/16.

He had his LAR ( rectum and sigmoid resection).
Below the final Report:

- Minute foci of residual invasive moderately differentiated adenocarcinoma, 0.1 cm
- Tumor invades into the muscular propria (T2)
- 1 out of 17 lymph nodes are positive for metastatic adenocarcicoma (N1a)
- Lymphovascular and perneural invasion is not identifies.
- resection margins are free of tumor
- Proximal donut, excision: colonic ring negative for malignancy
- Distal donut, excision: colonic ring negative for malignancy
- Tumor location (applicable only to rectal primaries): posterior wall
-Macroscopic Tumor perforation : absent
- macroscopic intactness of mesorectum: intact
- peritumor lymphotic response (crohn-like response): absent
- Treatment effect: > 50%
-Tumor deposit: absent

On September 13 he has a pelvic/ abdominal ct scan with and without contrast and nothing came back abnormal... only thing they noticed was inflammation in the respected area. Last Monday he had a colonoscopy done and the surgeon couldn't pass thru an area and did a biopsy.... we went to see the surgeon today and the results came back positive for cancer cell!

I am so lost and confused!!! My poor fiancé is sad and crying. His surgeon and oncologist are in shock!!!! The surgeon want to do surgery and he told us that he will have a permananent colostomy..

Why is this happening my Lord

[Maggie Nell]

In the Book of Genesis, when God proclaims, ''It is not good for man to be alone'', He decides to make for him ''a helper against him''. That's a literal translation. The partner is not to be a yes-person, or even someone to complement him. No. The partner is someone who stands opposite, to find the vital creativity that is born of dialectic tension ~ Chaya Devorah bat Chana, The Darkest Hour

When are you going to progress from fiancee to wife? You were engaged in July 2015 when he was diagnosed...what's the hold-up?




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http://www.btsurvivor.com/bb/viewtopic. ... 3&start=45

[ronnieciao]

In the Book of Genesis, when God proclaims, ''It is not good for man to be alone'', He decides to make for him ''a helper against him''. That's a literal translation. The partner is not to be a yes-person, or even someone to complement him. No. The partner is someone who stands opposite, to find the vital creativity that is born of dialectic tension ~ Chaya Devorah bat Chana, The Darkest Hour

When are you going to progress from fiancee to wife? You were engaged in July 2015 when he was diagnosed...what's the hold-up?

Quote sourced from
http://www.btsurvivor.com/bb/viewtopic. ... 3&start=45

How is this any of your business?

[stu]

Hi.
I am so sorry to hear that. This disease throws awful stuff at the people we love. Whilst it is a situation that requires more treatment I am still holding out for him that this will be the end of his trouble and something consigned to the past. Hold him tight.
Much love,
Stu

[testing765]

I am very sorry to hear about this. I can understand why you would both feel devastated. I hope that your fiancee's next fight against against the cancer monster is the fight that kills the cancer for good.

[mypinkheaven]

I'm so sorry you two are going through this. We all ask why and there's really no answer. I know it must be terribly disappointing to your partner about the permanent colostomy. But many people live full lives with them. Best wishes to you both.

[jhocno197]

I am so sorry. It is devastating.


Colostomies are not so bad.

[Maggie Nell]

For those of you who cannot see the forest for the trees.....the OP shares this:

I am so lost and confused!!! My poor fiancé is sad and crying. His surgeon and oncologist are in shock!!!!

I am suggesting that advancing the plans to marry and introducing a JOYFUL event, supported and surrounded by friends
and family will be something that this couple can have control over and why should cancer derail everything?!

[zx10guy]

dmondgirl,

So sorry about what is going on with your fiance and you. If you want, feel free to contact me via private messaging. I have some personal perspective on your situation as I went through it. I was the cancer survivor and my fiance was the caregiver. While I didn't have a recurrence so soon after my initial diagnosis, I did recently deal with what is probably going to be considered as a new primary.

Hang in there.

[mypinkheaven]

For those of you who cannot see the forest for the trees.....

I'm sure you mean well, but dealing with a potential blockage ("Last Monday he had a colonoscopy done and the surgeon couldn't pass thru an area"), surgery and recovery might not be the most opportune time to plan a wedding, especially since we have no idea of their marriage plans. And would "dialectic tension" help in anyway? They're working together for a solution to his serious problem, which should be based on science and not vital creativity. I may be wrong.

dmondgirl, we are here to support you and your partner and these extraneous posts should be ignored.

[testing765]

For those of you who cannot see the forest for the trees.....the OP shares this:

I am so lost and confused!!! My poor fiancé is sad and crying. His surgeon and oncologist are in shock!!!!

I am suggesting that advancing the plans to marry and introducing a JOYFUL event, supported and surrounded by friends
and family will be something that this couple can have control over and why should cancer derail everything?!

I can see the forest and the trees. I am sure you meant well, but what you wrote sounded very judgemental, like you were telling the original poster what she should do, and judging her for not doing it sooner. I did not find you to offer anything helpful or useful or caring to the original poster. Just try and put yourself in the shoes of the original poster before you submit your posts.

Dmondgirl- I am wishing you and your fiancee the best during this very difficult time. I can only imagine how torn up you must be.

[dmondgirl]

Hi.
I am so sorry to hear that. This disease throws awful stuff at the people we love. Whilst it is a situation that requires more treatment I am still holding out for him that this will be the end of his trouble and something consigned to the past. Hold him tight.
Much love,
Stu

Thank you for your encouraging words ...

[dmondgirl]

dmondgirl,

So sorry about what is going on with your fiance and you. If you want, feel free to contact me via private messaging. I have some personal perspective on your situation as I went through it. I was the cancer survivor and my fiance was the caregiver. While I didn't have a recurrence so soon after my initial diagnosis, I did recently deal with what is probably going to be considered as a new primary.

Hang in there.

Thank you I message you .. thanks again

[dmondgirl]

I am very sorry to hear about this. I can understand why you would both feel devastated. I hope that your fiancee's next fight against against the cancer monster is the fight that kills the cancer for good.

Thank you for you kind words and yes after crying and getting mad we are now reloading to fight this ugly
Diseases so that it will never come back again!

[dmondgirl]

I'm so sorry you two are going through this. We all ask why and there's really no answer. I know it must be terribly disappointing to your partner about the permanent colostomy. But many people live full lives with them. Best wishes to you both.

I agree about the colostomy and as long as he has a healthy life again I don't mind having to help him with the colostomy. Thank you for your words