WriterGirl1969 wrote:Hi Mike - wow, just out of surgery and online posting? You're good!
I hope that your surgery went well and that you're comfortable. I totally agree about relying on God. I'll say some prayers that your surgery results go well and healing is quick.
Hi Beans - thanks so much for your thoughts. I really am trying to balance my search for information so that it doesn't cross the line to obsessing. I get it that the scan may not have caught it, but that doesn't give me a lot of confidence in future scans. Just something for me to keep in mind, I guess.
Hi Andrea - thank you tons for your kind thoughts. I agree, the hardest part will probably be that I am a Mom and want to be a good Mom through everything. I know there will be times when I'll have to be selfish to be sure I'm taking care of myself, but don't want to waste 1 precious second. And you're so right, the word cancer just invades every single thought that you have after hearing it. Even making a wise-crack about someone on TV, I thought, "gee, should I really spend whatever time is left making wisecracks like that?" Ugh. On the upside, I'm being very honest with people around me, rather than what I would probably prefer to do which is not tell anyone. I realize this is too big for that mentality, and that I'll need all my resources. So hopefully I'm being honest with myself.
Weird fact, when I told my dad, he revealed to me that he'd had a colonoscopy a couple years ago, and they told him they thought he had cancer. He had surgery, and the surgeon told him they thought it was cancer, but results from the tissue samples said no cancer. I don't know what's more strange. That it happened, or that I never knew. I like to think something similar could happen for me, but I'm not counting on it.
I'd be glad to message you privately as soon as I can. Right now I'm still in my new member probation period, but I'm sure with all the posts I'll be changing over soon.
Again, so much thanks everyone. Feeling like a frightened rabbit takes on a new meaning when you find a sanctuary built just for frightened rabbits.
--Tracy
Tracy,
I totally understand searching for information and trying not to obsess about it. But the simple fact is you will obsess about it. Even now, when I know what I am facing I obsess about it.
I worry constantly about how my illness affects my daughter. I try to keep things as normal as possible but the sad fact is things have had to change. I have had so many complications she's used to seeing me in the hospital, she's had to become more of a helper at home, she does like being on "mom duty" because she feels like she is in charge of me though. It bothers me that she has had to grow up pretty fast in the last few months, but I try to think of it in a positive way. She's learning that we help family and others when they need it and that with determination we can do anything we put our minds to. She's seen me overcome a lot already, and I have promised her that I'm not going to die so I better try my hardest and then some to beat this.
Things don't always go as I have planned - and that planning nature of mine gets me in trouble with this disease. It's one of the reasons I research and obsess and try to find new or different treatments.
I wish I could tell you it goes away or gets easier, but at least for me it hasn't and I'm not sure it ever will.
Don't lose confidence in future scans, I have found PET scans are pretty dang accurate, and it all depends on who is reading the scan. Some doctors are better at it than others. I have had I think 7 or 8 CT scans since that first one (I have lost count!) - the others with better interpretations. I also think knowing what is there helps them interpret other areas of the scan.