Hey Again, Cynn-
The good news is, you aren't alone with the rectal probing on this board.
...but you already knew that.
First things first...you're in good hands and that's a good start, especailly if you really like your doc. I still think the second opinion (and even third) is a good way to go though. Hey...you never know, right? Maybe...just maybe...one of them is willing to try something else.
Cynn, I had no idea all the things you've been through...and for Pete's Sakes, this is the first time I've heard about your car too. But here's the deal. You're going to get through it...and a lot of it's going to suck...but you'll get through it because you HAVE to.
I've read all of your posts over the past few months...and you nail every single one as far as showing your feelings and getting your point across. You are funny and happy and sad and scared...but most of all you're honest. One post you put up that really struck me is the one about how people often have good intentions, but... It made me think of my friend Rocky (who would probably kill me if he knew I was mentioning him here). When I was first diagnosed, just like a lot of other people, certain friends stopped talking to me. Others only wanted to talk about their hockey teams, and one in particular called and actually said, "Molly, I heard you have cancer and that you're going to DIE." (I've since adopted the phrase, "Stupid people shouldn't breed." He's an ass anyway.)
In any case, Rocky somehow always knew just what to say...and I'm gonna force-feed that stuff on you now. When I first told him I had cancer, he said, "That sucks...but you'll get through it becase you're you."
When I told him I was so tired...so freaking tired that my eyes hurt and my body hurt and I just wanted to stay in bed for days...but so tired that I honestly couldn't fall asleep, he said, "Hey Molly, at least you didn't wake up this morning, look in the mirror and have to say - Aw Crap, you again?" (No matter how pissed I was, that one always made me laugh." Then he would tell me that was the time to go and work out, when I was most tired. (HAHA! I never once took him up on that one!)
...and when I cried to him on the phone about my cancer, he said something along the lines of, "Molly, there's always someone going through worse." Rock reminded me that there were a lot of people out there who had it worse off than I did and he wouldn't let me feel sorry for myself (which sucked a lot of the time). But in the end, his tough love (if I can call it love...actually I think he just liked to torture me
has stuck with me. He made me know that I would get through it...because I had to...period. That's just the way it goes. The road completely sucked ass at times...and other times, it was kinda rosy. But he wasn't going to let me forget that I was going to get through it one way or the other...just like none of us are going to let you forget.
So...get your warped sense of humor back here ASAP, because your honesty has inspired and touched more people than probably anyone on this board. ...and if you're tired...sleep! Your body is telling you that's what you need, and beside, when are you EVER going to have this excuse to lay around guilt-free again?