Well, you've had a jolly dreadful time and you seem quite traumatized. You have not mentioned
when your husband died, is this going to be your first Christmas-holiday as a widow?
Regarding the housing and economic stressors you have, I recall reading something about financial
help that is available for cancer families. It would be really helpful if you have a discussion with a
financial advisor and circle some wagons. Contact helping agencies such as St Vincent's de Paul
who can and do give a helping hand with practical assitance to pay utility bills, food, essential repairs,
clothing etc.
Just a link I googled up
http://www.svdpsb.org/You are still in the land of the living, as excruciating as that feels - get busy living and turn the
hose on those wolves at your door. It shrinks them!
How has your catholic faith and understanding of god survived this ordeal? Do you have a
spiritual community to lean into? How is your self-care with eating, sleeping, taking walks, giving
expression to anger, that sense of being robbed and cheated. Let 'er rip!
“Imagine you are a beautiful hand blown glass vase with exquisite colour and form sitting on a
sideboard and much admired. When major trauma happens the beautiful glass vase that you are
gets knocked off the table and smashes on the floor splintering into thousands of pieces. Most
rush quickly to gather the pieces and try valiantly to hold it all together, to appear like they used
to be by holding all the pieces together with anything they can. But there is no way to do this of
course.
Some, with good therapeutic support coupled with the support of loving family and community,
will slowly learn that there is no becoming what they were … but they just might become a
beautiful mosaic instead!”
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