O/T Happy Thanksgiving - How Much Do Feelings Weigh?

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O/T Happy Thanksgiving - How Much Do Feelings Weigh?

Postby bitchslapped » Tue Nov 24, 2015 3:05 pm

Received this in my email today. Thought I'd share:

How Much Do Feelings Weigh?

A noted speaker walked around a room while teaching stress management to an audience. As she raised a glass of water, everyone expected they'd be asked the "half empty or half full" question. Instead, with a smile on her face, she inquired: "How heavy is this glass of water?"

Answers called out ranged from 8 oz. to 20 oz.
She replied, "The absolute weight doesn't matter. It depends on how long I hold it. If I hold it for a minute, it's not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, I'll have an ache in my arm. If I hold it for a day, my arm will feel numb and paralyzed. In each case, the weight of the glass doesn't change, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes."

She continued, "The stresses and worries in life are like that glass of water. Think about them for a while and nothing happens. Think about them a bit longer and they begin to hurt. And if you think about them all day long, you will feel paralyzed – incapable of doing anything."

Remember to put the glass down. Thanksgiving is a time of both letting go and picking up. Each year we have the opportunity to let go of a misunderstanding, misconception or mistake. We also can pick up more understanding, develop more clarity and experience more gratefulness. The longer we focus on what is truly important the more we feel relief, gratefulness and joy today.



We can only do what we can do, but Best Wishes to ALL who celebrate in Thanks...for a Happy Thanksgiving.

BS
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Re: O/T Happy Thanksgiving - How Much Do Feelings Weigh?

Postby stu » Tue Nov 24, 2015 5:51 pm

Love it. Hope you all have a wonderful time.
Stu
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stage4 2009 significant spread to liver
2010 colon /liver resection
chemo following recurrence
73% of liver removed
enjoying life treatment free
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Oct 2017 nice clear scan . Two lung nodules disappeared
Oct 2018. Another clear scan .

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Re: O/T Happy Thanksgiving - How Much Do Feelings Weigh?

Postby justin case » Tue Nov 24, 2015 6:51 pm

bitchslapped wrote:Received this in my email today. Thought I'd share:

How Much Do Feelings Weigh?

A noted speaker walked around a room while teaching stress management to an audience. As she raised a glass of water, everyone expected they'd be asked the "half empty or half full" question. Instead, with a smile on her face, she inquired: "How heavy is this glass of water?"

Answers called out ranged from 8 oz. to 20 oz.
She replied, "The absolute weight doesn't matter. It depends on how long I hold it. If I hold it for a minute, it's not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, I'll have an ache in my arm. If I hold it for a day, my arm will feel numb and paralyzed. In each case, the weight of the glass doesn't change, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes."

She continued, "The stresses and worries in life are like that glass of water. Think about them for a while and nothing happens. Think about them a bit longer and they begin to hurt. And if you think about them all day long, you will feel paralyzed – incapable of doing anything."

Remember to put the glass down. Thanksgiving is a time of both letting go and picking up. Each year we have the opportunity to let go of a misunderstanding, misconception or mistake. We also can pick up more understanding, develop more clarity and experience more gratefulness. The longer we focus on what is truly important the more we feel relief, gratefulness and joy today.

We can only do what we can do, but Best Wishes to ALL who celebrate in Thanks...for a Happy Thanksgiving.

BS

Damn, that's a good one 8) 8) 8) 8)
Michael
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chemo/rad
lar/temp ilio
Reversal & port removal
21 round of chemo Folfox 9tx, 5fu 12 tx
Last treatment July 2012

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Re: O/T Happy Thanksgiving - How Much Do Feelings Weigh?

Postby peanut_8 » Tue Nov 24, 2015 7:45 pm

bitchslapped wrote:Received this in my email today. Thought I'd share:

How Much Do Feelings Weigh?

A noted speaker walked around a room while teaching stress management to an audience. As she raised a glass of water, everyone expected they'd be asked the "half empty or half full" question. Instead, with a smile on her face, she inquired: "How heavy is this glass of water?"

Answers called out ranged from 8 oz. to 20 oz.
She replied, "The absolute weight doesn't matter. It depends on how long I hold it. If I hold it for a minute, it's not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, I'll have an ache in my arm. If I hold it for a day, my arm will feel numb and paralyzed. In each case, the weight of the glass doesn't change, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes."

She continued, "The stresses and worries in life are like that glass of water. Think about them for a while and nothing happens. Think about them a bit longer and they begin to hurt. And if you think about them all day long, you will feel paralyzed – incapable of doing anything."

Remember to put the glass down. Thanksgiving is a time of both letting go and picking up. Each year we have the opportunity to let go of a misunderstanding, misconception or mistake. We also can pick up more understanding, develop more clarity and experience more gratefulness. The longer we focus on what is truly important the more we feel relief, gratefulness and joy today.

We can only do what we can do, but Best Wishes to ALL who celebrate in Thanks...for a Happy Thanksgiving.

BS


This is exhibit A on why I enjoy posts from BS. She always gets me thinking. Thanks again. :mrgreen:
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Re: O/T Happy Thanksgiving - How Much Do Feelings Weigh?

Postby ams5796 » Tue Nov 24, 2015 8:59 pm

Really good. Love that. :D



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Re: O/T Happy Thanksgiving - How Much Do Feelings Weigh?

Postby bitchslapped » Thu Nov 26, 2015 12:08 pm

Hey, Sharing Is Caring! :lol:
Kind words, peanut...glad you guys appreciated the message, as did I.
I'm grateful for this forum, thankful for my special friends here. You are a choice!
Our Thanksgiving w/b different this year. Today my son & I will be joining my BFF in the whole wide world & her DH + her sis (riddled w/breast cancer) & her sis' daughter @ the local church cafeteria for Thanksgiving dinner. We go back to junior high. Obviously it's not about the food. I am looking forward to seeing her sis, give her hugs. I've read so much on here on what NOT to say...there are no words. However I can offer my support, rides to appts if/when needed directly to her sis.

Afterwards, my son & I plan to go see a comedy @ the movie theatre.

Other than 27 degrees & a warm bed = oh yeah, I'm thankful!

Happy Thanksgiving

BS
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FOLFOX+Avstn 4 Rnds d/c 10/'14
Stent 9/'14
FOLFIRI+Avstn 10/'14
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Re: O/T Happy Thanksgiving - How Much Do Feelings Weigh?

Postby justin case » Thu Nov 26, 2015 12:46 pm

bitchslapped wrote:Hey, Sharing Is Caring! :lol:
Kind words, peanut...glad you guys appreciated the message, as did I.
I'm grateful for this forum, thankful for my special friends here. You are a choice!
Our Thanksgiving w/b different this year. Today my son & I will be joining my BFF in the whole wide world & her DH + her sis (riddled w/breast cancer) & her sis' daughter @ the local church cafeteria for Thanksgiving dinner. We go back to junior high. Obviously it's not about the food. I am looking forward to seeing her sis, give her hugs. I've read so much on here on what NOT to say...there are no words. However I can offer my support, rides to appts if/when needed directly to her sis.

Afterwards, my son & I plan to go see a comedy @ the movie theatre.

Other than 27 degrees & a warm bed = oh yeah, I'm thankful!

Happy Thanksgiving

BS

Sometimes there are no words to say, although people who have cancer seem to recognize when people understand their plight. Show hope in your demeanor, and don't change your outgoing personality, and don't do anything different than what is your normal agenda.
Happy Thanksgiving my friend,
Michael
7/11 diagnosed Stage 2 colon and rectal cancer
chemo/rad
lar/temp ilio
Reversal & port removal
21 round of chemo Folfox 9tx, 5fu 12 tx
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Re: O/T Happy Thanksgiving - How Much Do Feelings Weigh?

Postby bitchslapped » Thu Nov 26, 2015 1:19 pm

Michael...EXACTLY what I was looking for. Thank you for your "voice of reason" & insight. :P
These are friends that I am very comfortable with incl her sis, so "just be me" works.

XO
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Re: O/T Happy Thanksgiving - How Much Do Feelings Weigh?

Postby lpas » Thu Nov 26, 2015 1:25 pm

Fantastic advice. Thanks so much!!
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12/14 Colectomy + hysterectomy
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Re: O/T Happy Thanksgiving - How Much Do Feelings Weigh?

Postby DarknessEmbraced » Thu Nov 26, 2015 1:48 pm

Wonderful! Thanks for sharing! Happy American Thanksgiving to everyone. Thanksgiving in Canada was in October.
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Lymph-vascular invasion undetermined
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Re: O/T Happy Thanksgiving - How Much Do Feelings Weigh?

Postby WifeOfMike » Sat Nov 28, 2015 1:11 am

My dearest (BITCH) Lois,

I came here feeling blue, & as usual will be leaving with a grin on my face because of my dear friends here. Lois, your post was an inspiration, as are YOU. It could not have come, at a better moment in time. Mikey, you always seem to know what s in my heart & reach out in the darnedest moments.

After a fistful traumatic vet appts with multiple dogs (2 mine, 2 my sons), I ended up losing Mike's 12 year old pit-bull Dirt last week. It tore me & my sons apart, although I somewhat comforted them by telling them Mike wanted his beloved companion with him. (We had always play fought over whose dogs they were). The other 3 pooches, Thankfully are in the clear, although Sissy my 10 year old mastiff has an ongoing infection-month 2, after an emergency operation.

Thanksgiving morning, my 80 year old mom ended up in the ER- diagnose: a complicated hernia (out of the blue- she is healthy as a horse otherwise). She is out of the woods & should be home bound with me within the next day or two. After major surgery last night- she took ONE Tylenol today. All I can say is GO MOM!!!

As usual dear woman, I am heeding your advise & letting go. I am replacing my heaviness with GOOD thoughts of my Dear man, our beloved Dirt (Dog), & all of the many friends I have found here. May your Thanksgiving, Christmas, Holidays & every day be blessed.

Much love to ALL.
Wife of Mike,
Vick
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Re: O/T Happy Thanksgiving - How Much Do Feelings Weigh?

Postby bitchslapped » Sat Nov 28, 2015 5:40 pm

There you are Sister Vicki! Yep, I'm smiling @ you :) .

Your mother is in good hands w/you. Just ask the doc what you should look out for down the road as sometimes healing from those hernia repairs/scar tissue buildup can be seriously problematic years later. It may be one of those "you don't know until you know" kind of things, but something to keep in the memory bank if she develops gastro problems one day. Wishing Mom a speedy recovery.

When it rains, it pours. Our furry little family members sure etch their signatures on our hearts. We worry about them as everyone else we are caring for. My little Chloe (long-haired mini doxie, redhead) has had several scares w/auto immune disease. She is 12 now & was "daddy's girl). I got a vet & vet specialist that I'd hug their feet for saving my little girl more than once. I have a feeling I know what the loss of Mike's Dirt means to you.

Glad to see you checking in.

Hugs
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Re: O/T Happy Thanksgiving - How Much Do Feelings Weigh?

Postby WifeOfMike » Sat Nov 28, 2015 10:12 pm

Hey girlfriend,

YEP, I'm on it. I've already been advised she could have another break through hernia down the road. She had a crimped colon that needed a hunk removed/ reattached, so the typical mesh could not be used and she had to be stitched instead. I am finding my mission in life is to be the advocate for anyone in my family in the bed of an ER, or Hospital/ Dr's office. I KNOW that YOU know that role all too well TOO. I find myself sitting beside yet another loved one who does not do "sick", having had zero illnesses in 80 years, period. We are planning on requesting a release tomorrow, with or without the "usual timeline of typical patients".

OH JOY, another head on fight with the White Coats :twisted: :mrgreen: :P
Picture me in my knights armor, sword in hand in the morning. That should make a few of you grin
You can place your bets now, but I am a sure thing, LOL
Been there/ done that :lol:

HUGS,
Sista Vicki
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Hubs: CRC IVA,T3, N0, M1A
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Re: O/T Happy Thanksgiving - How Much Do Feelings Weigh?

Postby WifeOfMike » Sat Nov 28, 2015 10:30 pm

For all of you in the fight, for all of the loving Caregivers, For all of you who have lost loved ones

Rachel Platten "Stand By You" lyrics
(Even if we can't find heaven)

Hands
Put your empty hands in mine
And scars
Show me all the scars you hide
And hey, if your wings are broken
Please take mine so yours can open too
Cause I'm gonna stand by you
Oh, tears make kaleidoscopes in your eyes
And hurt, I know you're hurting, but so am I
And love, if your wings are broken
Borrow mine so yours can open too

Cause I'm gonna stand by you
Even if we're breaking down, we can find a way to break through
Even if we can't find heaven, I'll walk through hell with you
Love, you're not alone, cause I'm gonna stand by you
Even if we can't find heaven, I'm gonna stand by you
Even if we can't find heaven, I'll walk through hell with you
Love, you're not alone, cause I'm gonna stand by you

Yeah, you're all I never knew I needed
And the heart, sometimes it's unclear why it's beating
And love, if your wings are broken
We can brave through those emotions too
Cause I'm gonna stand by you
And oh, truth, I guess truth is what you believe in
And faith, I think faith is having a reason
And I know my love, if your wings are broken
Borrow mine so yours can open too

Cause I'm gonna stand by you
Even if we're breaking down, we can find a way to break through
Even if we can't find heaven, I'll walk through hell with you
Love, you're not alone, cause I'm gonna stand by you
Even if we can't find heaven, I'm gonna stand by you
Even if we can't find heaven, I'll walk through hell with you
Love, you're not alone, cause I'm gonna stand by you

I'll be your eyes 'till yours can't shine
And I'll be your arms, I'll be your steady satellite
Now when you can't rise, well, I'll cry with you on hands and knees
(Cause I) Cause I'm gonna stand by you
Even if we're breaking down, we can find a way to break through
Even if we can't find heaven, I'll walk through hell with you
Love, you're not alone, cause I'm gonna stand by you
Even if we can't find heaven, I'm gonna stand by you
Even if we can't find heaven, I'll walk through hell with you
Love, you're not alone, cause I'm gonna stand by you
Love, you're not alone
I'm gonna stand by you
(Even if we can't find heaven, heaven, heaven)
Yeah, I'm gonna stand by you

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vgK86_jKEZs
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Hubs: CRC IVA,T3, N0, M1A
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Re: O/T Happy Thanksgiving - How Much Do Feelings Weigh?

Postby justin case » Sat Nov 28, 2015 10:31 pm

WifeOfMike wrote:Hey girlfriend,

YEP, I'm on it. I've already been advised she could have another break through hernia down the road. She had a crimped colon that needed a hunk removed/ reattached, so the typical mesh could not be used and she had to be stitched instead. I am finding my mission in life is to be the advocate for anyone in my family in the bed of an ER, or Hospital/ Dr's office. I KNOW that YOU know that role all too well TOO. I find myself sitting beside yet another loved one who does not do "sick", having had zero illnesses in 80 years, period. We are planning on requesting a release tomorrow, with or without the "usual timeline of typical patients".

OH JOY, another head on fight with the White Coats :twisted: :mrgreen: :P
Picture me in my knights armor, sword in hand in the morning. That should make a few of you grin
You can place your bets now, but I am a sure thing, LOL
Been there/ done that :lol:

HUGS,
Sista Vicki

I can picture the poor fool who asked if you have any idea what you are talking about :roll: :roll: :roll:
I would not even think of being in those shoes :shock: :shock: :shock:
Bro Mikey
7/11 diagnosed Stage 2 colon and rectal cancer
chemo/rad
lar/temp ilio
Reversal & port removal
21 round of chemo Folfox 9tx, 5fu 12 tx
Last treatment July 2012


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