Willow.NZ wrote:Some people, it's crap that she has put you in this position. Last thing you need to be dealing with. I think it should be up to your husband to have a quiet word with her. Along the lines of he is worried that it may be to much for you having her stay long term. Let her know short term ok but with treatment and all the ups & downs it too much right now....
midlifemom wrote:If your dh is unable to effectively deal with her, perhaps you can write her a letter - rather than face to face confrontation. Butt with a positive spin. Something like -
Dear xxx,
Thank you for wanting to be here to help me through this difficult time. As you've most likely witnessed I'm not capable of doing what I used to do - and this upsets me greatly. However, I thought I could give you a few tips of how to help me even better.
Thanks for all your help in the morning while I'm getting the sleep I need. I do see what you've done and am grateful, but for you to tell me each and everything thing you've done depresses me since it points out how much I've lost. If you could simply give me a smile each morning instead, that would make me feel so much better. Etc,, etc, etc.
Regarding the driving, perhaps limit her - tell her you have the energy for only two, or whatever, trips that day, and agree as to which trips they will be.
Tell her you need some alone time - and go out without her.
I hope these thoughts help. If not, kick her out and let her stand in the driveway!
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